There is at least one moment in every person’s life where they say the right things out loud, but silently believe something completely different. Usually, it’s harmless—like saying you’re "fine" when you’re actually a ball of stress. But sometimes, it’s about the grudges we hold. 

We all keep a list of the people who have wronged us, waiting for apologies that may never come. But in this episode of Better Beliefs, we uncover a different, older list—the one with our own name on it. It's the tally sheet of our regrets, our shame, and the times we didn't show up for ourselves. 

Joining the show is author, podcast host, and spiritual coach Rachel Harrison. Rachel shares her powerful personal journey through a chaotic family dynamic, codependency, and alcoholism, detailing the exact moment she realized that healing her life didn't start with changing the people around her. It started in the mirror. 

In this episode, we explore:

• The Trap of Transactional Forgiveness: Why waiting for an apology keeps your peace of mind hostage. 
• The Physical Toll of Resentment: Fascinating data from the Stanford Forgiveness Project on how holding grudges literally makes us sick. 
• What Codependency Really Is: Understanding how "control disguised as love" drains our energy. 
• Spiritual Forgiveness: How to take the judgment off your past so you can finally step into your present. 
• The Power of Self-Compassion: Why beating yourself up at 2:00 AM doesn't protect you—it just keeps you stuck. 

The person you are becoming can't meet you halfway until the person you used to be stops blocking the road. It’s time to put down the weight you were never supposed to carry forever. 

✨ CONNECT WITH RACHEL:

• Read her book: Grab a copy of Rachel's best-selling book, Recover Your Soul, on her website: https://www.recoveryoursoul.net/
• Listen & Learn: Check out Rachel’s podcast and explore her coaching programs: https://www.recoveryoursoul.net/

🎵 SHOW CREDITS:

• Written, Edited, & Produced by: Brent Kocal
• Show Ownership: Better Beliefs is owned by 6350 Ventures 
• Cover Art: Jenny H Designs 
• Original Opening Music: Lonely Ramblers 
• Additional music credits:
  • "Space Time Thought" by CTRL-S
  • "Lu sciccareddu" by TEO
  • "Orange Lullaby" by Nitzan Rom
  • "Above the Clouds" by Theater of Delays
  • "This Must Be Love" by Rynn
  • "Oh Yeah, Life" by Just for Kicks
  • "Contemplative Question" by The Tennessee Pistols

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Watch the Video Version of This Episode: https://youtu.be/T_OOTCt5Bmk