What if self-love isn’t something you’re born with, but something you build?

In this episode of Softcore Detachment, Catalina sits down with guest, Nige to talk about self-love and self-worth for people who didn’t grow up with either modeled for them. Together, they unpack how perspective shapes our reactions to life, how fear is meant to protect, not control you, and why setting boundaries is one of the most loving (and uncomfortable) things you can do for yourself.

This conversation moves from victimhood to agency, from self-abandonment to self-trust, and from motivation to daily, reliable self-care. Nige also shares the Ho'oponopono prayer as a practical tool for releasing emotional weight and reconnecting with compassion, without bypassing reality.

If you’ve ever felt like self-love sounds good in theory but feels inaccessible in practice, this episode is for you.

Key themes:

• Why struggling with self-love doesn’t mean something is wrong with you

• How fear works and how to stop letting it run your life

• The role of boundaries in emotional resilience

• Building self-trust through small, daily actions

• Choosing progress over starting over