She Wakes Up

\\ You’re Not Broken, You’re Wired to Stay Safe- Attachment Styles & Trauma Bonds


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💔 Episode Overview

Ever wonder why you keep ending up in the same kind of relationship, even when you know it’s not good for you?

Why you crave closeness, then pull away when someone gets too near? Or why love feels like a rollercoaster you can’t get off?

In this episode, Stacy takes you into the tender truth behind our patterns of love and connection; where attachment styles and trauma bonds quietly shape who and how we love.

This isn’t about labeling or fixing yourself. It’s about understanding why your nervous system learned to love this way and how to gently begin rewriting that story.

🧠 What You’ll Learn
  • What attachment theory really means and how it develops

  • The four attachment styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganized explained with real-life examples

  • How trauma bonds form and why they can feel like love

  • The difference between chemistry and safety

  • Steps to begin healing your attachment patterns without losing your softness

    🌿 Key Takeaway

    Your attachment style isn’t who you are, it’s how your body learned to stay safe.

    You’re not broken; you’re beautifully wired for survival.
    And with awareness, you can rewire for love that feels safe, steady, and true.

    🪞 Reflection Prompts

    Use these questions to deepen your self-awareness after listening:

    1. Which attachment style feels most familiar to me right now?

    2. When do I feel most unsafe or unseen in love — and how do I respond?

    3. What patterns do I notice repeating in my relationships?

    4. What would it feel like if love felt calm, mutual, and consistent?

    5. What part of me still confuses chaos with connection?

      ✨ Take a Breath

      Healing your attachment wounds isn’t about becoming someone new.

      It’s about remembering who you were before you learned to guard your heart.

      Learn more and join the Beta Waitlist here: Get Regulated™

      Connect with Stacy:

      Instagram: @stacyfayling or @shewakesup
      Free Quiz: Are you stuck in survival mode?

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      She Wakes UpBy Stacy Fayling

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