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005: Kay Pranis: Finding Allies in the workplace and in the world
Kay Pranis started with Peacemaking Circles. Her initial teachers in the circle workplace was Barry Stuart, a judge from Yukon Canada; Mark Wedge; and Harold Gatsby. From 1994 to 2003, Kay held the position of Restorative Justice Planner at the Minnesota Department of Corrections. Since that initial exposure to the use of peacemaking circles in the justice system, Kay has been involved and developing the use of Peacemaking Circles in Schools, Social Services, Churches, Families, Neighborhoods, Museums, Universities, Municipal Planning and Workplaces. Kay has co-authored several books about circles, “Peacemaking Circles: from Conflict to Community”, “The Little Book of The Circle Process: A New/Old Approach To Peacemaking”, “Doing Democracy with Circles: Engaging Communities in Public Planning”, “Heart of Hope Resource Guide: Using Peacemaking Circles to Develop Emotional Literacy, Promote Healing and Build Healthy Relationships” and “Circle Forward: Building a Restorative School Community”.
In this episode Dr. Gaye Lang and Kay Pranis discuss:
- Partnering with allies to incite social change and transitioning from being a trained oppressor to becoming an empathetic and respectful ally.
- How shame affects people and how to help others out of it
- Understanding people, showing humility and empathy to people of other cultures.
- Building allies with people at work
Key Takeaways:
- Most people don’t want to be oppressors and there’s a lot of shame involved with acknowledging that they’ve been trained to oppress. They need a safe space to discover the harm they cause and be able to change.
- If you want to influence someone positively, you have to make them feel safe, listened to and understood.
- Shame is the driver of behavior that’s hurtful to others, it’s a hard place to be. We try to layer it with anger or accusation of other people, pretending that we don’t care.
- For white people, in very big ways, humility is right now one of the most important things for us to be wearing that we need to be humble about how little we know about the structure that privileges us.
“Humility is not about being less than, but about understanding that we’re not ‘better than-’” - Kay Pranis
Connect with Kay Pranis:
Order Kay’s books: https://www.amazon.com/Kay-Pranis/e/B001K8T6Q0%3F
Website: https://livingjusticepress.org/
Connect with Dr. Gaye Lang:
Don’t forget to subscribe to the show, so that you don’t miss a single episode; and please leave a rating and review. I would greatly appreciate it.
Follow our show on Facebook and check out our Website for more details and to engage with our podcast community. You can also follow Dr. Lang on LinkedIn.
Download Three Vital Practices to avoid a potential lawsuit for free by clicking this link: www.WorkplaceRestorativePracticesInc.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gaye-lang-1735761b5/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gaye.lang.779/
KEY WORDS:
Diversity, inclusion, equity, tolerance, racism, bias, implicit bias, and explicit bias.
Show notes by Podcastologist: Justine Talla
Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert. Your podcast will prove it.
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Kay Pranis started with Peacemaking Circles. Her initial teachers in the circle workplace was Barry Stuart, a judge from Yukon Canada; Mark Wedge; and Harold Gatsby. From 1994 to 2003, Kay held the position of Restorative Justice Planner at the Minnesota Department of Corrections. Since that initial exposure to the use of peacemaking circles in the justice system, Kay has been involved and developing the use of Peacemaking Circles in Schools, Social Services, Churches, Families, Neighborhoods, Museums, Universities, Municipal Planning and Workplaces. Kay has co-authored several books about circles, “Peacemaking Circles: from Conflict to Community”, “The Little Book of The Circle Process: A New/Old Approach To Peacemaking”, “Doing Democracy with Circles: Engaging Communities in Public Planning”, “Heart of Hope Resource Guide: Using Peacemaking Circles to Develop Emotional Literacy, Promote Healing and Build Healthy Relationships” and “Circle Forward: Building a Restorative School Community”.
In this episode Dr. Gaye Lang and Kay Pranis discuss:
- Partnering with allies to incite social change and transitioning from being a trained oppressor to becoming an empathetic and respectful ally.
- How shame affects people and how to help others out of it
- Understanding people, showing humility and empathy to people of other cultures.
- Building allies with people at work
Key Takeaways:
- Most people don’t want to be oppressors and there’s a lot of shame involved with acknowledging that they’ve been trained to oppress. They need a safe space to discover the harm they cause and be able to change.
- If you want to influence someone positively, you have to make them feel safe, listened to and understood.
- Shame is the driver of behavior that’s hurtful to others, it’s a hard place to be. We try to layer it with anger or accusation of other people, pretending that we don’t care.
- For white people, in very big ways, humility is right now one of the most important things for us to be wearing that we need to be humble about how little we know about the structure that privileges us.
“Humility is not about being less than, but about understanding that we’re not ‘better than-’” - Kay Pranis
Connect with Kay Pranis:
Order Kay’s books: https://www.amazon.com/Kay-Pranis/e/B001K8T6Q0%3F
Website: https://livingjusticepress.org/
Connect with Dr. Gaye Lang:
Don’t forget to subscribe to the show, so that you don’t miss a single episode; and please leave a rating and review. I would greatly appreciate it.
Follow our show on Facebook and check out our Website for more details and to engage with our podcast community. You can also follow Dr. Lang on LinkedIn.
Download Three Vital Practices to avoid a potential lawsuit for free by clicking this link: www.WorkplaceRestorativePracticesInc.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gaye-lang-1735761b5/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gaye.lang.779/
KEY WORDS:
Diversity, inclusion, equity, tolerance, racism, bias, implicit bias, and explicit bias.
Show notes by Podcastologist: Justine Talla
Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert. Your podcast will prove it.