Summary: Apparently inner child work works… At least it brought out a playful side of your hosts! But, there is of course also some deep conversation with personal reflections, and if you feel compelled to connect with YOUR inner child, Victoria created a wonderful visualization exercise for you to try out. Enjoy the show =)

LINK to explore a guided visualisation to reconnect with your inner child and foster a more authentic and compassionate relationship with yourself.

0.40 Introducing a potentially transformative topic.

1.00 How is the inner child work a part of our visibility journey?

1.20 Inner child is MORE than pain and trauma - it’s also innocence, curiosity, and fearless exploration.

2.00 Using this other part to become more comfortable being visible and showing up as ourselves.

2.35 Connecting to joy and wonder and using it to help us in our business.

3.00 Trine is kinda new to inner child work and is glad to have the ‘lighter’ side brought up too,

4.00 … because she is not completely comfortable with the inner child as a ‘separate entity’.

5.00 Musing about a comparison between inner child work and shadow work.

5.50 Victoria makes a good point about not ignoring the challenged inner child, because it can be very relevant for our current lives - and business!

6.35 First explorations of identity.

7.20 Starting to compare ourselves to our peers.

7.50 Wanting to be recognized for who we are, so it’s important not to lose touch with who we were.

8.30 Cognitive dissonance and how it creates an emotional landscape.

9.05 Looking back to how we felt about ourselves and about life.

9.30 Trine having trouble remembering the sense of identity Victoria describes. 

10.10 She was more like a radar trying to understand her position to people around her.

10.30 Feeling different from the other kids. Having different points of reference.

11.10 Victoria reading about Rembrandt - and accused of being a slow reader.

12.00 Being a problem to others… and how that makes us see ourselves.

12.50 Going back to reframe the narrative.

13.20 Kids nowadays…. and the difference from our experiences.

14.00 Being immersed, mindful, wanting to go deep - valued qualities or making us wrong?

15.00 Victoria’s memory of the fancy dress parade - and feeling unseen.

15.40 When both perspectives can be true - and dealing with that as grown ups: Can we be ‘right’ even when others see us as ‘wrong’?

16.30 Constantly reminding ourselves to hold on to our version of who we are and want to be.

17.00 Having compassion for ourselves in the process and tuning into what really matters.

17.35 Vulnerability, openness to others’ perception. 

18.40 Brene Brown quote about vulnerability.

19.10 The need to embrace our own vulnerability and how our inner child can help us do that.

19.40 Sometimes we carry things forward because we don’t have the courage to be vulnerable and speak our truth.

20.40 Maybe we are born helpless by design… we are shaped by people around us and the work is to figure out who WE are.

21.15 The human condition (fear/lack/scarcity) causes competitiveness and makes the grown-ups want to prepare us for a harsh world.
22.10 Next-door neighbors complaining about children laughing too much, having too much fun…. get a life!

22.45 When kids are allowed to be kids without inhibitions - let it remind us that we still have access to that side too.

23.20 So what do we do about the impact our surroundings had on us?

23.40 Acknowledgement and validation, self-compassion, and rewriting how we feel about ourselves and our experiences.

24.10 Gentle approach to personal growth - because the hard way causes further resistance and makes us defensive.

25.20 Non-HSP or other ‘normies’ can’t necessarily understand what it’s like for us, so we need to show ourselves the kindness we need.

26.20 The value of connecting with others like us - realizing we are not alone.

26.50 Victoria’s favorite tools to show more compassion for ourselves: Journaling, meditation, walking in nature.

27.25 Reframing experiences and emotional clearing exercises.

28.20 Acknowledging that our busy mind is not always telling the truth or being particularly kind to ourselves.

29.00 This too might be a work in progress… but having a dialogue with our inner child is a great and gentle way to integrate the needs and desires of our inner child. 

29.50 Visualization as a powerful way to process the disconnects of our mind into a channeled conversation. 

30.25 Victoria’s visualization exercise (LINK) to help having a conversation with our inner child and explore how you want to show up and communicate your message.

31.30 Reparenting - being the grown up in the relationship with ourselves, giving ourselves the love that might have been missing.

32.00 The word parenting bringing up various associations…!

32.25 Playfulness, joy, and spontaneity - and finding ways to infuse it into our work and become more authentic, compassionate, and creative.

32.50 But NOT by forcing it into our schedule - by liiiiiving it.

33.20 Joy as a last resort… that turned out to be great! 

33.50 Why not enjoy life, why take it all so seriously?

34.30 The inner child finding beauty in the simple things and living without limitations - just like we aspire to do!