This episode is about the awareness to recognize and the tools to handle resistance - and what it takes to get into a state of flow.
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0.55 Resistance as the greatest challenge we need to get over - and how that feeling causes… resistance!
2.00 Resistance as the thing that clutters our connection to all there is.
2.45 Losing ourselves to an activity - finding flow.
3.15 Flow can be freaky!
4.00 Flow as ‘being in the zone’ - and how that relates to our comfort zone.
4.50 Resistance as the threshold, and once you push through, it disappears
5.30 The more we care about something, the more resistance.
5.45 Getting into the zone by engaging with the resistance.
6.15 Activities that make us overthink and how getting started removes the resistance.
Getting over the hurdle by accepting where we are - and USE the resistance by looking into it.
7.20 Resistance as a sign there is something important going on and using it as a reason to investigate. Learn to tune in and figure out what we are afraid of.
8.20 Shine a light on the old beliefs that are going on.
8.40 Almost getting excited about resistance - because there is always something juicy to find.
9.15 Resistance - not necessarily because something is hard to do or because we have too high standards.
10.30 Flow state as the flip side to resistance.
10.45 The history of the term Flow - optimal experience.
11.20 Ease and effortlessness. Inner connectedness.
12.00 How to make flow ‘tangible’: The visuals of flow and resistance as a river with rocks. And how it connects us to source.
13.00 The river needs rocks to make rafting interesting.
13.30 Fighting the flow - rowing upstream, instead of letting go of the oars.
14.00 Paddling upstream because we have learned it’s the thing to do.
14.25 Creative blocks, and how resistance happens even earlier.
15.00 Victoria’s sculpting analogy:
Frustration and wanting to control the process cause resistance.
Mindset shifts to enjoy the process - setting ourselves free to experiment.
Letting go of expectation as a way to get into flow-state.
17.35 How do we identify resistance?
18.00 Feeling stuck in our business and getting out of our own way.
18.40 Being too familiar with resistance, being trained to do things that don’t feel good.
19.30 ‘Eating the frog’ - mindset.
19.50 Beings HSP and especially sensitive to resistance (Trine’s rant against ‘just pushing through’).
20.40 Trine’s experiment to see what happens if she refuses to ‘push through’ when she encounters resistance.
21.20 Doing things differently can remove the resistance.
22.00 Deciding to be happy - and how it fits with flow and resistance when turning stress and depression into happiness.
22.40 There is no ‘just’ in deciding to be happy…
23.05 Awareness - am I leaning towards flow or resistance?
24.00 Stress caused by resistance - and trying to live up to external expectations.
24.30 Giving up resistance as a last resort. Quitting and choosing ME - even a miserable me.
26.00 No longer pushing against resistance created space for the inner voice. Getting better results when resistance is minimal.
27.00 Authenticity and finding flow in expressing ourselves.
27.30 Don’t beat yourself up about feeling resistance - it just creates more resistance: The cycle of resistance - or even addiction.
28.20 ‘What you resist persits’ (Abraham Hicks). Especially when you resist tuning into yourself and recognizing the patterns.
28.50 Being kind to ourselves is the only way to move forward without adding more resistance.
29.20 Self-compassion is a habit that takes practice. It requires attention to our inner dialogue.
30.00 Reframing our stories to lift ourselves up.
30.30 Being nice to ourselves is a work in progress. Even being kind to ourselves about not being kind to ourselves.
31.20 Self-kindness might be the fastest route to flow.
31.30 Early trauma or growing up with a lack of love can make kind self-talk difficult.
32.15 Being aware of the role trauma plays and shine a light to help us break free.
33.05 Understanding why things are the way they are can help process it. Recognizing the conditioning.
33.30 Even recognizing how it feels to love ourselves can take a bit of work.
Gentle exploration and brief glimpses is a place to start.
34.25 Going back to the experiences that made us feel a specific way.
35.00 Reframing old stuff as not-personal can be liberating.
35.35 The inner work can be triggering and needs to be gentle.
36.00 Emotional clearing process helping us embrace our awesome sides.
36.30 Resistance can be embodied and turn into physical manifestations.
37.00 Many modalities to work with our resistance, from somatic to mindset work.
37.40 Finding what works for us.
37.50 Speaking out loud as a tool to free up physical tension.
38.35 Being in nature or the place where it feels most natural and building momentum in the sense of connection.
39.10 Start where it feels best for you - make sure you are comfortable.
39.40 Getting in touch with our bodies and physical freedom.
40.10 Victoria raving about Focus-Mate (you can join and find me here) and how it can be especially good for people with ADHD. A way to co-work online with someone for connection and accountability. Mutual ‘showing up’.
43.00 Creating synergy and connecting with others adds energy.
44.00 It’s all about getting started. Taking the first action.
44.40 Pomodoro method, small bite-sized tasks.
45.20 Works for exercising too! Just do 5 minutes and it’s easy to keep going, but setting out to do an hour would have killed the energy.
45.50 Resistance, flow, and a counterintuitive method to embody your messaging! Read Victoria’s article here.
46.30 Making promises or putting things on the calendar can be another way to get things done.
