For our first full episode, join Christina as she breaks down the 10 biggest dating patterns that keep you choosing the wrong person—again and again. No sugarcoating, just straight talk. So, is it them, or is it you?

If you're ready to break the cycle and finally rewrite your love story, let’s get into it!

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro
00:10 Recognizing Relationship Patterns
00:25 Introduction to Episode Topic
00:39 Host Introduction and Coaching Background
00:48 Overview of Dating Patterns
00:59 Why We Attract Certain Partners
01:16 Understanding Relationship Patterns
01:32 Influence of Upbringing on Relationships
01:45 Defining Trauma in Relationships
02:11 How Trauma Shapes Self-Perception
02:26 The Role of Attachment in Dating
02:54 How Parents Influence Attachment Styles
03:06 Early Family Experiences and Emotional Regulation
03:18 Impact of a Parent’s Struggles on Childhood
03:31 Caretaking Behaviors in Childhood
03:47 How Childhood Patterns Show Up in Dating
04:07 Recognizing and Breaking Unhealthy Patterns
04:23 The Security of Familiar Relationship Patterns
04:45 Dating Emotionally Unavailable Partners
05:10 The One-Sided Nature of Emotional Unavailability
05:24 The Fear of Expressing Needs in Relationships
05:49 The Fixer-Upper Pattern in Dating
06:15 Trying to Change a Partner
06:47 How Upbringing Affects Partner Selection
07:10 Mistaking Intensity for Love
07:29 The Cycle of Highs and Lows in Toxic Relationships
07:45 The Impact of Chaotic Childhoods on Dating
08:12 Why Unstable Relationships Feel Normal
08:24 The Addiction to Drama in Relationships
08:42 Choosing Partners Who Mirror Personal Issues
09:06 Prioritizing Chemistry Over Compatibility
09:27 The Pitfalls of Physical Attraction Over Shared Values
09:50 The Role of Emotional Maturity in Relationships
10:15 The Fear of Being Alone
10:45 How Overdependence Leads to Unhealthy Relationships
11:18 Ignoring Red Flags in Early Dating Stages
11:45 Justifying Problematic Behaviors
12:19 Creating Trauma Bonds in Relationships
12:42 The Love Addict and Love Avoidant Cycle
13:02 How Trauma Bonds Reinforce Negative Patterns
13:14 Overprioritizing Others' Needs in Relationships
13:48 The People-Pleasing Trap in Dating
14:19 The Struggles of Setting Boundaries
14:57 Seeking External Validation Through Partners
15:11 The Trophy Partner Mentality
15:29 The Importance of Finding Genuine Connection
15:48 How Societal Standards Influence Partner Choices
16:18 Overcoming Relationship Patterns
16:54 Recognizing Your Own Role in Dating Struggles
17:19 Introduction to Reality TV Relationship Analysis
17:34 Encouragement to Subscribe and Follow
17:53 Closing