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Hey Amber, how do I know if something is good enough to be done or to be sent out? I feel like I have perfectionism with a lot of my projects because I always think they can be better. What's the point I know they are good enough for me to stop working on them?

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Hey Amber, how do I know if something is good enough to be done or to be sent out? I feel like I have perfectionism with a lot of my projects because I always think they can be better. What's the point I know they are good enough for me to stop working on them? Thank you, Sarah

Hi Sarah! Great question! Ya know, I think nearly everything has an opportunity to be "better" but you wanna make sure you're not making "better" synonymous with "perfect" because, well, perfect doesn't exist. Therefore, you can't measure something up to it.   

Because you're reading this I know you're someone who wants to better herself. You work hard, you hold yourself to good standards. There will always be something you can see to make better but not everything needs to be your Pulitzer Prize.   

If you're putting in an honest effort to make something good, it will be. How much time and attention you need per project will depend on the project. Give yourself enough time and attention but not excessive or obsessive time and attention.   

Here is a personal example: My perfectionism kicks in around emails. I used to write, edit, rewrite, sleep on it, read again, edit, re-write, re-write, re-write, sometimes holding onto an email for over a week to make sure my message was perfectly conveyed.   

Emails don't usually need to be this serious so I started giving myself time limits and edit limits. For every email I write,  I'm allowed to edit/re-write a total of 5 times before I ask myself to hit send. I also make sure my draft box is empty at end of day and I usually give myself the time of 24 hours to send emails. That way, I don't hoard them, forget them, or obsess over them.   

You are smart. You're capable. Your work is good! If you find yourself obsessing over something and you can't think of a reasonable amount of timescape to give yourself, ask a friend or a colleague for feedback to help you personalize the releasing of your perfectionist tendencies around that project.   

Sometimes it really can help to see it through the eyes of people you trust.  Good luck with your release!