The Confidence Column

An audio advice column where Amber Rose answers your confidence boosting (or confidence crushing) questions each Wednesday.

My question is super simple and yet, feels like the hardest thing in the world to me: How do I be confident?? I just wanna be confident - that’s it. It looks so easy for all the women I see and I sit here just so confused. How do they do it? I’m just so frustrated trying to be more confident and still not feelin it…

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An audio advice column where Amber Rose answers your confidence boosting (or confidence crushing) questions each Wednesday.

This week's question comes from a friend of mine (shared with her permission.) With self-care being such a buzz word lately, there is some confusion on how to do it. Her questions, very simply are: "Self-care? What is that even? What am I supposed to do??" You may think you've gotten advice about self-care before but this is a whole new spin. Listen in on how you can find self-care that fits you perfectly.

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An audio advice column where Amber Rose answers your confidence boosting (or confidence crushing) questions each Wednesday.

Hey Amber,

Yes, I definitely worry about what other people think of me. A lot of the time, I don’t want to say things because I dont’ want them to think I’m dumb or something. I’ve been trying to do more self confidence work (which is how I found your page) and when I saw your question, I realized I do this a lot! I worry a lot about what other people think about me. I know this is a thing, and I can see other women in my life having issues with it too. Are we all dealing with this? Is there a way to truly stop it forever?

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An audio advice column where Amber Rose answers your confidence boosting (or confidence crushing) questions each Wednesday.

I actually am a pretty awesome go-getter. When I set my mind to something, I can usually make it happen and won’t stop until I get close to making it happen but, I’ve been noticing over the last year or two that whenever I’m making progress towards something, I get locked into comparing myself to other people’s success and it steals my confidence is a big way. I could be totally on the up and up with my  own stuff and then I just STOP because I’m on social media, watching all these other amazing women doing amazing things and I just feel like I’ll never get there. A confidence killer. A hustle killer.  But I gotta be online so...what’s the best way to stop comparing?

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An audio advice column where Amber Rose answers your confidence boosting (or confidence crushing) questions each Wednesday.

Hey Amber, I am a personal trainer and private yoga teacher. I always get super nervous when it comes to raising my prices and sticking to them.  I get scared they are too high and people won’t pay the price so I always end up lowering them. I feel like...maybe I’m not good enough to have these high prices even though... I’m trained, I’m professional, and I want to make more money. What can I do to help me not back down?

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TW: The cycle of Lovebombing

On this episode, I talk about something that is a form of emotional abuse dressed up as undying love. It’s something that was brought to my attention as a form of abuse that...I have suffered from...and I recently found out many others have suffered from. It’s called Lovebombing.

In my own conversations about #lovebombing, women I spoked with overwhelmingly expressed the traumatic experiences they’ve overcome through this cycle of narcissistic manipulation of lovebombing > devaluing > discarding, and the various bits and details of how they experienced it and learned to RUN whenever they see signs of it again.

I wanted to share this because

If we can make you privy to it prior to the act, I hope this advice helps y'all dodge a BOMB

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With her permission, I'd like to share a piece of advice I gave a work colleague this week while she's in the midst of creating her latest online course: 

I feel amazing in the movement of creation, not following someone else’s rules, going for it, believing amazing things will happen from this creation. Then I get to my challenge, and, I keep repeatedly coming back to this, every cycle, every year I’ve been trying to create something new. My challenge is with not feeling like the outcome I want is possible. I’m just not feeling the outcome. I quickly get back into a rut. I get back in my head and body and I’m like “nah, I ain’t feeling this.” Then I get frustrated cuz I’m not “feeling” this. I want to physically feel the outcome. I want to get into the excitement of that outcome and do the work in that feeling.

So that when I do the work I feel good about it cuz it gets me closer to this outcome.

I know that things don’t have to be perfect to manifest.

You don’t have to be perfectly healed with no limiting beliefs with perfect alignment to make good things.

You just work through the messy stuff. And still, I get dragged in this rut when I can’t feel the outcome or get a good feeling about the outcome.

Do I have more healing to do?

Do I have more blocks to get rid of?

Do I have confidence I need to work on?

I’m sick of feeling like something is in the way I have to work on before I can get the feeling...and keep working

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An audio advice column where Amber Rose answers your confidence boosting (or confidence crushing) questions each Wednesday.

Hi Amber, My parents are really judgy. Especially my dad. I haven’t followed the traditional life path they kept trying to keep me on, and any decision I make, even as a grown woman, revolves around what my dad is going to say to me about it. I spend a lot of time stressing out about decisions, or just not even doing things, because I know my dad will make me feel bad no matter what I choose.  My confidence to do anything is tied up...and really non-existent...because I’m worried about them judging me. Is it too late to fix this? I feel like I’ll never not think about them and what they’ll say....

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An audio advice column where Amber Rose answers your confidence boosting (or confidence crushing) questions each Wednesday.

This week, I decided to answer a topic of standing up for yourself after I received feedback from an IG reel I posted. Enjoy this weeks advice regarding the three reasons you have a hard time standing up for yourself in conversations and how you can begin moving through what keeps you stuck.

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An advice advice column where Amber Rose answers your confidence boosting (or confidence crushing) questions each Wednesday.

Hey Amber,

Other people are always telling me what to do. I married young so between my mom, MIL, and husband, I feel like everyone has an opinion of what I should do or not do. I struggle with telling them how I feel and wish they would listen to me more but, I don’t want to make them upset with me or like I don’t value their opinion. At the same time I’m sick of being pushed and pulled around. Is there a way I can get them to stop talking to me like a child without them getting upset with me?

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