Stacy is a return guest who shared her story about conceiving a child with a surrogate and adopting a second child. Today, she tells me about her experience with the adoption process and what she wants other women to know about the “illusion” created by the industry. Stacy’s path to motherhood was an eight-year journey. Through miscarriages, a failed adoption, and a failed surrogacy, Stacy had to keep moving forward with the faith that her child was waiting for her. She walks the listener through the process and is very transparent about the average cost of the various stages.

We also discuss the red flags a potential adoptive parent needs to watch for and the various paths to adoption. There are pros and cons to every path to motherhood and Stacy doesn’t shy away from that. She gives incredible details of her own process, the good, the bad, and the ugly.

If adoption is something you are considering, Stacy story should both caution and encourage you.

Some highlights of today’s conversation:

Resources

This modern love episode

Mothertobaby.org an organization giving information about drug and alcohol exposure

Michelle Hughes and Bridge Communications adoption attorneys that help Single moms by choice

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Quotes

"Much on the same way, that any child you give birth to that might have a disability, might have an illness, would still be the absolute love of your life and joy of your life, so it is with the adopted baby that might have exposure or might have a disability, they're gonna be the loves of your life." -- Stacy

"When you so desperately

want to be a mom, you overlook so many things that you know better than to overlook." -- Stacy

"If a birth parent is going to change their mind, saying no is not going to be the reason. I learned that the hard way." -- Stacy