In this episode, we discuss what defining moments are and how your inner child may be controlling the adult you are today. Throughout the episode, Steven the Medium delves deep into his defining moment. He was only a child when his father committed suicide. This is that story — Unpacked. 

There may be two people inside you, which one is in control?

If you feel life is happening to you, then this episode was recorded with you in mind. Tune in to start reinventing the narrative that may be holding you back. 

“When you know that something is there then you can choose, because when you know that something is there then you can choose”  

Timestamps: 

[0:01] Life updates!

[07:35] Episode overview: the power of defining moments. 

[10:20] Do you always know when defining moments are happening? 

[14:40] What ARE defining moments?

[15:16] Are defining moments positive or negative? 

[16:30] When lots of defining moments happened (two real life examples). 

[20:04] Steven The Medium’s defining life moment (“I must have been the reason…”)

[27:25] The sneaky way defining moments influence the rest of your life. 

[33:33] Does the influence of defining moments ever end? 

[38:23] How can you get through a pivotal moment? 

[39:30] Passage from the book Three Laws of Performance (being two different people)

[42:54] What to ask yourself to discover what defining moments took place in your life? 

[45:47] Why you MUST find out what defining moments happened in your life. 

Key Takeaways: 

You have to have enough self awareness to be able to spot defining moments as they are happening. 

Defining moments are points in your life when you are urged to make pivotal decisions about yourself and who you are and when you experience something that changes you. They usually make you challenge your norms and beliefs. 

Often, when we experience defining moments they accompany negative events. However, transformative moments can also be positive. 

If we do not unpack our defining moments and understand the effect they have on us, lots of our life events and behaviors may be built on top of or influenced by how these defining moments have shaped our character and beliefs. 

To find out what defining moments took place in your life ask yourself “what happened to me” and try to go as far back in the past as possible, then ask yourself “am I that person?” 

 

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