Parent Driven Development

034: Extracurricular Activities

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Parent Driven Development
Episode 034: Back to School and Extracurricular Activities for Kids
00:59 Welcome, Barrett Clark

  • Barrett Clark is a data programmer, speaker and author of Data Visualization ToolKit. He is a longtime member of the Ruby community and a co-organizer of RailCamp South. Married for 22 years, Barrett and his wife have two teenage boys and a new dog.

  • Ruby community

  • Family: 2 highschool teenage sons (senior / sophomore) both in band.

  • Parent advisors and past president to children’s band team

    • 01:46 Extra curricular activities for kids
    • Barrett’s son involved with band
    • The parents get involved as well, to have the kids know that you value them and their interest
    • carpools with fellow parents
      • 08:25 Extra cirrculars taking up more time than school and work. How to deal?
      • Helping kids see the importance of prioritizing (school, dating, work, band, etc)
        • 12:20 Helping kids find their “thing” + Overly committing kids to activities to help them find a passion
        • Signing your kids up for more activities
        • Kids getting wiped out from over activity
        • Teaching kids the importance of community at a young age
          • 15:15 Help kids find their community
          • Friends of similar interests and ideals
          • Creating deeper bonds
          • Certain activities lend towards a larger community than others. gymnastic - girls range from 12-18, while sports often limit to one age group
            • 17:13 Becoming a part of your kids activities
            • More time with your children
            • Build your own community amongst the other parents involved with your kids
            • Flexibility in being involved “part-time”
              • 20:51 Uninvolved parents vs. involved parents
              • Single parents
              • Younger kids in school
              • Parents helping each other get their kids to activities
              • Making sure other kids have support if their parents aren’t there or too busy
                • 25:45 Ways to keep busy parents in the loop: build greater community
                • Film concerts, games, etc for distant family members or busy parents to help keep them involved
                • Building the community feel past just teammates and classmates
                  • 27:28 Discussing the organization of extra cirrculars before getting involved
                  • Sit down and discuss with your child. what’s important to you most? will you have time for all these sports and clubs?
                  • Ask about the history of the organization and decipher if it’s the right fit for you and your child
                    • 30:02 How to deal with “that parent” + learning to manage other parents in your kids activities
                    • Don’t yell at refs
                    • Overly involved parent envy
                      • 32:14 The financial side
                      • Fundraisers - parents typically have to get involved as well
                      • Writing a check vs. spending the time on fundraisers
                      • Kids take responsibility (older kids)
                      • Parents budgeting for future extracurriculars for kids
                      • Non-negotiable extracurriculars for kids - kids choice vs. have-to’s
                      • Budgeted financial support for activity or sport
                        • 42:35 Genius / fail moments
                        • The volleyball team offers a weekend trial for students to try without commitment. #genius
                        • New favorite child when they take on your same activity
                        • Barrett plays catch up with son’s college applications - the struggles motivating your child and parent strategy #geniusfail
                        • Middle school back to school night, too many teachers and no quality time #failmoment
                        • Allison’s son on a mission to find Sukana bread… except she doesn’t know what it is #fail
                        • Kwu’s son’s first haircut goes awry #fail So Kwu stepped up, orders tools and cuts his hair at home now #genius
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                          Panel

                          KWu

                          Chris Sexton
                          JC Avena
                          Allison McMillan
                          Josh Puetz

                          Special Guest: Barrett Clark.

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