Valentine’s Day is almost here, and if you’re single, you might be tempted to fall into the same old traps—doom scrolling, texting your ex, or making last-minute desperate dating decisions. But not this year!

In this episode, we'll walk you through self-sabotaging behaviors, toxic relationship nostalgia, and why social media comparison is not the move. Whether you're embracing solo plans or finding ways to reframe your mindset, this episode will help you break the cycle and make Valentine’s Day work for you—not against you.

Hit play and let’s make this year different—because it might feel like déjà vu, but it also might be you!

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro
00:20 Recognizing dating patterns
00:59 The single person Valentine's Day spiral
01:16 Avoiding the self-sabotage trap
01:27 Understanding self-sabotage and its impact
01:39 Emotional consequences of self-sabotage
01:55 Identifying negative beliefs about being single
02:05 Reframing negative thoughts
02:19 How thoughts lead to behaviors
02:29 Doom scrolling and comparison traps
02:41 Why social media makes you feel worse
02:52 Muting people on social media
03:01 Taking a social media break
03:10 Recognizing unhealthy behaviors
03:26 Replaying past relationships
03:38 Romanticizing an ex
03:49 Forgetting why you broke up
04:01 Why you shouldn’t text your ex
04:21 Fantasy vs. reality in relationships
04:34 Seeing singlehood as an opportunity
04:56 How being single can be positive
05:10 The myth of relationships defining worth
05:23 Social creatures and the need for connection
05:34 Why being single is not failure
05:51 How your mindset shapes behavior
06:19 The importance of self-reflection
06:32 Learning from past relationships
06:44 Avoiding familiar but unhealthy patterns
07:07 Letting go of what’s holding you back
07:19 Self-worth is not tied to a relationship
07:35 Examples of happy singles and unhappy couples
07:51 Avoiding desperate dating decisions
08:10 Why you shouldn't date just to avoid loneliness
08:23 Texting casual flings for Valentine's Day plans
08:41 Why loneliness is not a reason to date
09:03 Embracing solo experiences
09:20 Why you should not text your ex
09:36 How nostalgia tricks you
09:55 Why checking on an ex is a bad idea
10:11 The facts about your past relationship
10:29 Distracting yourself from texting your ex
10:46 The dangers of social media comparison
11:02 Social media is a highlight reel
11:14 Why cute Instagram posts don’t mean healthy relationships
11:32 Understanding the reality behind perfect-looking couples
11:44 Examples from personal experience
12:05 The argument behind a happy social media post
12:20 Emotional spending as a coping mechanism
12:36 The risk of impulse shopping
12:54 Avoiding drastic changes like haircuts or diets
13:12 Avoiding extreme fitness or diet reactions
13:30 Respecting your body instead of punishing it
13:47 Why crash diets won’t fix your emotions
14:50 Avoiding toxic positivity
15:04 Why forced fun isn’t necessary
15:20 Acknowledging Valentine's Day without overreacting
15:38 How to move through the day mindfully
15:53 Self-sabotage recap
16:09 Cute vs. cringe segment
16:22 Texting your ex on Valentine's Day—cringe
16:34 Buying yourself flowers—cute
16:47 Going on a last-minute first date—cringe
17:00 Posting dramatic self-love messages—depends
17:16 Ordering a heart-shaped pizza—cute
17:40 Re-downloading dating apps in a panic—cringe
17:53 Having a Galentine’s night—cute
18:10 Buying a gift from your dog—depends
18:27 Going on a solo fancy dinner—depends
18:55 Posting throwback relationship pics—cringe
19:37 Asking for listener contributions
19:47 Preview of next episode
19:58 Outro