We were both really weird today!!! Welcome to my monologue on safe love, dissociation, joint finances, and how cute my bf’s lil baby legs look when he breaks into our own house through a window (because I locked us out by accident). I wordily equate safe love with psychiatric meds that allow you to grow through emotional work. Enter smush — a good partner vs. a good friend, and finding both of those in the same person for the first time. Also: discussion of how Borderlines process new experiences.