We were both really weird today!!! Welcome to my monologue on safe love as an example, depersonalization/derealization, combining finances, and how cute my boyfriend's lil baby legs look when he breaks into our own house through a window (because I locked us out by accident). I wordily equate safe love with psychiatric medication as a medium that allows you to grow through emotional work. We have some smushy relationship appreciation — a good partner vs. a good friend, and the magic of finding both of those in the same person for the first time. Also get some good explanation of how Borderlines process shock, difficult new experiences, and acclimating once trying something new has unexpectedly safe results.