Are You With Me Right Now?

On whatever quarantine day this is, Handsome Man and I gatekeep Animal Crossing and debate the pointless nature of kids' shows' decisions to hire "recreational drug users" to teach our children. We said it would be short but it's full-length, so take that.

This episode is last episode, but better and clearer and calmer. After having some time to think, I get to the core issue: I'm not being treated like a parent, so acting in the role of a parent without the respect or authority associated with that role is exhausting and upsetting. We get to what my needs actually are and agree on how to fix it. Feelsgoodman.

Tonight I air some grievances about stepparenting and ugly-cry while probably projecting a lot. We talk oversensitivity in SM-SD interactions, parenting decisions, and not feeling like a part of the unit.

In this one, we talk about sex! And procrastination, and miscommunication. We've been out of sync. But we got Switches so we can play together, so everything's fine lol. Traveling is on the agenda — I'm about to visit a friend out of state for the longest time we've ever been apart, and we finally have the freedom to plan a couples' trip and a family beach trip. (At least, we thought so when we recorded this episode. Thanks, COVID!) Also, Chris' little brother's girlfriend is the worst and I hate her #bpd

In this rousing addition to the series, we're nice to each other after our stupid fight about my cat. In the interest of being extra cheesy and gross, we talk about the fact that living together is going very well! We contemplate all the ways that things are easier under the same roof. And then we talk about babies! Because we're gonna have some at some point. The end.

We basically just squabble about my very rude cat and then make up after I realize we're not even really fighting about my cat. I sing Kapp'n's song from Animal Crossing: New Leaf with the grace of a (different) cat in heat while I go to the island to catch bugs. We debate the merits of parenting and stepparenting, and just kinda talk about how tough of a job it is and how sweet the payoff is.

Woe is me!!! (Not really, but my boss does majorly suck.) Daddy has started his own business, so we're officially rebranding to an entrepreneurial podcast. Handsome Business Man and I are getting serious about shared finances and big purchases. We're also at a couple different crossroads in work and parenting, so stay tuned for discussion. Parents and stepparents of the world, we salute you. Final note: baby fever consumes all. Peace out.

We were both really weird today!!! Welcome to my monologue on safe love as an example, depersonalization/derealization, combining finances, and how cute my boyfriend's lil baby legs look when he breaks into our own house through a window (because I locked us out by accident). I wordily equate safe love with psychiatric medication as a medium that allows you to grow through emotional work. We have some smushy relationship appreciation — a good partner vs. a good friend, and the magic of finding both of those in the same person for the first time. Also get some good explanation of how Borderlines process shock, difficult new experiences, and acclimating once trying something new has unexpectedly safe results.

Sorry for taking our sweet time uploading; it was Christmas for us WASPs. This is our first episode after getting settled into our new house — and everything that comes with blending a family. Step parenting is... really hard. And I'm practicing, which means getting things wrong. We talk a little about space, boundaries, and feeling territorial as we all adjust to the new family living situation. At Jordan Peterson's request, we fight! About engagement rings!! Because I want one. Whenever that time comes. The end.

In our last episode before we moved, I just had a lot of feelings okay!!!!!!!!!! We minorly fight about my mean and stupid cat. I make it uncomfortable for everyone by being defensive, oops. We then hash out my most BPD episode as of late, and it turns out I do care about what my dad thinks! Surprise surprise. Also establish "dysfunctional" as a not-funny joke insult. Sometimes it be like that.