We've all been there—we want our lives to unfold a certain way, and we think that squeezing harder is going to get us there. It never works. In this episode, we contemplate the illusion of control. Where does the need to control come from? We talk about the psychological and spiritual aspects. But more importantly, who are we in the absence of control? The most defining aspects of our life may be out of our hands, but we still have agency. Even better—we have trust and surrender. How do we get better at letting go?