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043: Why You Shouldn’t Ask People What They’re Thankful For
Why You Shouldn’t Ask People What They’re Thankful For with guest, Consultant and Clinical Training Specialist in Transformational Leadership, Deborah Horowitz
Today's guest, Deborah Horowitz joins Elix and Steven to discuss the difference between rote gratitude and active gratitude. They discuss how to reframe gratitude in a forward-thinking way, why asking “what are you thankful for” is not effective (and what to ask instead), the 9 fundamentals of actively practicing gratitude, and why you shouldn’t just do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Deborah Horowitz is a consultant and clinical training specialist in transformational leadership.
“It’s not happy people who are thankful, but thankful people who are happy.”
Timestamps:
[02:00] Life updates
[10:14] Episode overview: thankful people are happy people
[15:35] Who is Debora Horowitz?
[16:49] Framing gratitude in a forward-thinking way
[19:20] Why you shouldn’t ask “what are you thankful for” (and what you should ask instead)
[26:11] 9 Fundamentals of active gratitude
[30:04] The foundation of gratitude
[32:03] Expanding the golden rule “do unto others as you would have them do unto you”
[36:47] Listening to connect as part of your gratitude practice
[39:54] Making a dedicated effort toward gratitude
5 Key Takeaways:
Gratitude is one of the most scientifically studied proven ways to experience a greater sense of wellbeing in your life.
Asking “what are you thankful for” has become such a routine question that people no longer internalize the grand meaning of the question. Instead, you can ask: “what can I do to make others grateful?”
It’s important to think of gratitude as an active process. You can use the 9 fundamentals of gratitude to apply this, which are: greatness/grace, responsibility/recognition, appreciation, trust, intention, time, understanding, dedication, effort.
Being present is the foundation upon which gratitude is built. Without being present and mindful in your life, it is almost impossible to be grateful. You cannot notice things to be grateful about if you aren’t aware of what is going on.
Having a gratitude practice takes dedication and effort. You cannot passively be grateful. There must be an intention dedicated to gratitude.
If you found value in this episode, please leave a 5-star review so we can continue inspiring you!
Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix airs live on WARA 1320AM out of Attleboro, MA every Friday at 1 p.m. Eastern. To listen live or be a caller, stream the show from anywhere in the world by visiting www.wararadio.com.
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Why You Shouldn’t Ask People What They’re Thankful For with guest, Consultant and Clinical Training Specialist in Transformational Leadership, Deborah Horowitz
Today's guest, Deborah Horowitz joins Elix and Steven to discuss the difference between rote gratitude and active gratitude. They discuss how to reframe gratitude in a forward-thinking way, why asking “what are you thankful for” is not effective (and what to ask instead), the 9 fundamentals of actively practicing gratitude, and why you shouldn’t just do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Deborah Horowitz is a consultant and clinical training specialist in transformational leadership.
“It’s not happy people who are thankful, but thankful people who are happy.”
Timestamps:
[02:00] Life updates
[10:14] Episode overview: thankful people are happy people
[15:35] Who is Debora Horowitz?
[16:49] Framing gratitude in a forward-thinking way
[19:20] Why you shouldn’t ask “what are you thankful for” (and what you should ask instead)
[26:11] 9 Fundamentals of active gratitude
[30:04] The foundation of gratitude
[32:03] Expanding the golden rule “do unto others as you would have them do unto you”
[36:47] Listening to connect as part of your gratitude practice
[39:54] Making a dedicated effort toward gratitude
5 Key Takeaways:
Gratitude is one of the most scientifically studied proven ways to experience a greater sense of wellbeing in your life.
Asking “what are you thankful for” has become such a routine question that people no longer internalize the grand meaning of the question. Instead, you can ask: “what can I do to make others grateful?”
It’s important to think of gratitude as an active process. You can use the 9 fundamentals of gratitude to apply this, which are: greatness/grace, responsibility/recognition, appreciation, trust, intention, time, understanding, dedication, effort.
Being present is the foundation upon which gratitude is built. Without being present and mindful in your life, it is almost impossible to be grateful. You cannot notice things to be grateful about if you aren’t aware of what is going on.
Having a gratitude practice takes dedication and effort. You cannot passively be grateful. There must be an intention dedicated to gratitude.
If you found value in this episode, please leave a 5-star review so we can continue inspiring you!
Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix airs live on WARA 1320AM out of Attleboro, MA every Friday at 1 p.m. Eastern. To listen live or be a caller, stream the show from anywhere in the world by visiting www.wararadio.com.