A lot of people tell me, “You’re so emotionally intelligent.” I’ve taken a hard look at why they say that, and in this episode, I want to dive into what emotional intelligence really means. Unlike IQ, EQ is a mindset you can learn and improve. I’ll break down some common “stuck” scenarios, offer high-EQ solutions, and share the value system I’ve developed around EQ and personal energy.

I hope these methods help you be your genuine self—and enjoy the episode!

00:52 EQ as a“soft tool”: your ability to read people

01:50 Lessons from years as a talent manager: matching your communication to different situations

03:03 High EQ equals high energy—get results, and the energy comes right back to you

05:02 EQ may feel instinctive, but there are concrete, learnable steps

08:53 Pure altruism and pure selfishness both miss the mark on high EQ

11:34 “Self-positioning”: leverage your strengths and weaknesses to build your energy field

14:13 Understanding the “loved-or-hated” phenomenon and your innate traits

16:11 “Rely on yourself first”: the first step in EQ is using yourself effectively

19:48 Building a healthy, long-term network: create new connections and deliver ongoing value

28:26 “Do the work—deliver real results—then let your success speak for you”

32:31 Difficult conversations: how to address issues you know will hurt the other person

34:52 Building your inner support: recognizing that some decisions benefit both parties in the long run

37:12 Soothing their emotions: how to be an empathetic listener

37:45 Considering their interests and highlighting your value—finding win-win even in tough talks

39:02 The core of high EQ: meet your own needs first, then empower others

39:52 Learn to accumulate energy so EQ works for you

42:15 My stable value foundation lets me live with confidence

43:50 Put the EQ formulas into practice—here’s to becoming a high-energy person!