*Talking can be the most dangerous thing couples do. Today with the magnificent Dr Kalanit Ben-Ari, a relationship therapist, Chairperson of Imago UK, author, speaker, therapist supervisor and parental advisor, we cover:

Why compatibility isn’t what we think it is.

The first year is not always a smooth sailing, problem-free honeymoon, Kalanit explains why some of us stumble in the first year whilst others on the seventh. Neither are a good or bad sign but it’s how you handle it that’s key.

How to deal with conflicts with our partners and why they are “gold” in the Imago philosophy

How to grow and become a better partner for them or the next one (they leave, they lose)

How to forgive ourselves and our partner - feelings of guilt and shame, anyone?

Why it’s important to not paint your partner as the bad one during conflicts but to remember the good parts.

How to express an issue without it being a big deal aka without your partner taking it as an attack

How to not lose yourself in a relationship and why it happens

Knowing the difference between: Needing space in service for yourself or in service for the relationship?

Is breaking up always the end?

*This was recorded in Nov 2020*

Reference used for this episode: Getting the love you want by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen Hunt

Come find Dr Kalanit at kalanitbenari.com Books on Amazon: Small Steps to Great Parenting & The Lost Book

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