As Neal and Judy dialogue about several fights that happened between them during the week, they focus on the reality that it was impossible to resolve the argument simply because they both held a very different perspective on how and why it went down. When words that were spoken are remembered in a different order, their meaning changes. When our perspectives collide it feels like someone isn’t being honest, and we should be able to get to the bottom of the mess. But we can’t because no one is lying about what they remember hearing and feeling. That’s complicated people.

If it’s going to be messy, and we know it is, we better learn how to thrive in the mess. Neal and Judy offer two practices that make thriving possible in the midst of conflict.

They invite you to wonder with them, about what’s possible when we refuse to take things personally or believe our own assumptions.

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