The Australia Counselling Podcast

078: The Challenges of Working with High-Conflict Couples


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If you work with couples, you probably find some of your most challenging couples to work with are those in high conflict.

 

Sometimes couples come into the therapy room right from a fight and continue the fight in your office. Or perhaps you're dealing with a couple that has been harbouring resentment and anger that explodes out when they talk about certain issues.

 

Whatever the case, the reality is you need to contain your clients and put rules in place to make the therapeutic environment safe and secure so everyone can be heard and validated for the therapy to progress.

 

This is no easy task at the best of times and made all the harder if you're a therapist who personally finds conflict challenging.

 

So we spoke with Australia Counselling member Jacqueline McDiarmid who specialises in working with couples and families, and has a wealth of experience in working with high conflict couples and training therapists in how to work with these clients.

 

In this interview Jacqueline shares:

 

  • The most common behaviours of couples in high conflict
  • The challenges therapists struggle with when working with high conflict couples
  • The most common mistakes therapists make with high conflict couples
  • How to effectively manage the couple when fighting escalates in the therapy room
  • Tips for therapists needing to manage their own anxiety when conflict escalates
  • How to use systemic circular questioning in your sessions to reduce escalation of conflict
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    Get the show notes at http://australiacounselling.com.au/session78

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    The Australia Counselling PodcastBy Clinton Power