"What do you think of these dishtowels?" she asked? "I married a woman that could make a decision, where did she go?" he replied.    OOF. Have you tried to serve the one you love like crazy? Do you know people who have lost who God made them to be while trying to make others happy? Today's episode of What to Say & How to Say It deals with losing your identity and how that can actually backfire in your attempt to have a good relationship.