Have you ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same kind of relationships—one person craving closeness, the other pulling away? It’s not just bad luck—it’s a cycle.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the Love Addict & Love Avoidant cycle—a dynamic that explains why some people chase love while others run from it. Based on Pia Mellody’s post-induction therapy model, this framework will blow your mind as you start seeing patterns in your own dating history.

💡 What You’ll Learn:
✔️ What a love addict is and why their biggest fear is abandonment
✔️ What a love avoidant is and why intimacy makes them feel suffocated
✔️ The cycle that keeps these two types attracting each other (and ending in chaos)
✔️ How childhood trauma and unmet emotional needs shape these patterns
✔️ What to do if you recognize yourself in this dynamic

If your relationships feel like déjà vu, it might not be a coincidence—it might be you. Let’s figure it out together.

Let's connect:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DatingD%C3%A9j%C3%A0vuPodcast

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro
00:10 Introduction to the love avoidant, love addict cycle
00:22 Recognizing relationship patterns and self-awareness
00:43 Pia Melody’s post-induction therapy model explained
01:14 The Meadows and its influence on relationship dynamics
02:06 The love addiction cycle and its connection to attachment styles
02:21 Explanation of the love addict’s greatest fear and trauma response
03:17 Unrealistic expectations and emotional highs in love addiction
03:48 Childhood neglect and its role in love addiction
05:02 The cycle of clinginess, fear of abandonment, and resentment
06:24 The love addict’s struggle with facing reality
08:16 Emotional withdrawal, obsession, and attempts to regain attention
09:16 The repetitive cycle of seeking new partners for validation
10:11 The impact of love addiction on dating behavior
12:04 Steps to heal from love addiction and develop self-worth
12:36 Introduction to the love avoidant and their core fears
13:30 How love avoidants feel overwhelmed by intimacy
15:02 Personal story of developing love avoidance tendencies
16:22 Love avoidance and detachment strategies
18:25 How avoidants cope by turning to external distractions
19:05 The love avoidant’s cycle of duty, resentment, and withdrawal
21:19 Healing love avoidance by learning to ask for help
24:09 The push-pull dynamic between love addicts and love avoidants
26:15 Recognizing triggers and working towards conscious awareness
26:55 Coaching and support options for breaking these patterns
27:56 Outro