The request for advice for today's show is:

"My girlfriend says she doesn't want me to do things for her, but I want to. She gets really upset with me when I do things for her, even when she's told me not to do them, even things like picking her up from work, and then she brings up my past relationships or friendships or threatens to break up with me. This happens a lot, and I find it exhausting, but I'm terrified to lose her. Why doesn't she appreciate me doing things for her?"

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