Easy To Say

The shoe is on the other foot in this episode's conundrum:

"My friend caught me sniffing their shoe and getting a hard on again, and now he's pissed off and won't reply to my messages. I can't stop the hard on or the temptation to have a quick whiff at shoes. How can I get my friend to accept me for who I am?"

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In this episode, we debate if our writer has an issue with standards:

"I had a friends gathering recently at a friend's house, which was a 10-minute walk away from my place. It ended quite late, & my husband said he would walk over to pick me up. My friends invited him in for a drink, but he refused & he waited at the main road. My friends were all extremely shocked at his behaviour! Do I just have low standards? I'm fine with this, but my friend's reaction is making me worry. Do I have low standards? Am I not seeing something? Is there a problem I'm missing?"

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In this episode, we talk about facing the most dreaded thing any couple can face:

"I have been with my partner for a good number of years. We have built a home. We are blissfully in love, even after 15 years. And I love that we are in this relationship because we want to and not that we needed to. Recently, I received news on a diagnosis while we had bravely faced it together and had good conversations on it, a part of me worries and feels guilty that she would end up taking care of me for the rest of my life when I no longer am able. I fear that what I give her will no longer be love, but the dread of responsibility and accountability on her part. How do we truly embrace for better and for worse? How do I convince myself to believe that there is still love, even if one day she might not be able to see it from my eyes anymore?"

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This week, we give advice on a sensitive topic:

"My best friend from school is getting married later this year. Recently, I found out through social media that she has a bridal party and I'm not in it. This was surprising and hurtful to me, as she mentioned a while ago that she wasn't planning on having a bridal party or bridesmaids. I'm still planning on attending the wedding, as I've already booked my flights and scheduled a trip back to Singapore around it. I live in the UK and have lived here for most of my adult life, but I feel very sad and rejected. It's also making me question our friendship. Have I misunderstood our closeness? Did the fact that I don't live in Singapore play a role in this? I want to tell her how I feel, but I'm not sure. How am I even allowed to tell her how I feel? Or is that too presumptuous?" 

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We try to get to the bottom line in today's show

"I love to rim my partner's ass. However, my current girlfriend doesn't like it. I tried it once with her and she wasn't a fan. What can I do to get her to let me rim her on a regular basis?"

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Not all places hold good memories, as today's question proves: 

"Hi. I'm queer, and my partner (they/them) gets very triggered that I often avoid places that my exes and I have been to. I think it's normal that Singapore is tiny, and maybe I'd never get past it. I get that it's tiring, and I'm also anxious about passing this painful fear onto them. I don't know what to do to cope better and not affect my partner with the ways my insecurities and pains are. Is there something I can do?"

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We help a couple with their bondage question 

"My girlfriend, 32F and I, 35M, have been together a year now, and things are so good! Everything clicks :) On her birthday, she wanted to try something different sexually, and when we entered the bedroom, she had laid out all this BDSM gear. Afterwards, she complimented my dirty talk and said she felt safe with me when restrained, which is great, but how do I tell her I really, really, really want to try things the other way around?"

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On the show today, a rabbit is getting better treatment that the partner!

"I am annoyed with my boyfriend for showering his attention on my pet rabbit. It sounds ridiculous even as I type this. I've spoken to him about this before, and he's just brushed me off. One example is he just buy lunch for himself and my rabbit when he visits, and none for me. Okay, like this. And when I asked him why, he said he forgot to ask me if I wanted any. And this has happened quite a few times. Am I being the sensitive one here?"

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For this week's question, we dip our toes into School Mum dynamics:

"How do I handle a mother who's trying to form an exclusive cool kids / mothers club at school where my daughter just wants to be friends with her kid. I'm neither cool, nor do I really want to be part of this club that deliberately excludes mothers or kids deemed uncool. Help me navigate the school mother politics without losing my cool."

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For this week's episode, we give advice about a tricky situation:

"A friend has been dealing with her husband's infidelity for a while. They have recently decided to put the past behind them and to start afresh. I wasn't aware of this truth when I saw the friend's husband with his mistress, and I told her about it. Ever since then, she has been acting weird around me, which is making me very uncomfortable, and I also feel a lot of guilt. Should I have told her about the cheating husband or not? "

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