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The Ups and Down in a Relationship Episode 3 Our Guest Heartbreak Healer Breakup Grief Guide Personal Coach Elmira Loftin, Doctah E

I’m here because of a lifetime of love stories – not all of them with happy endings.

I’ve lived many love stories that I thought would turn out differently. I got married at a young age, then divorced – forced to unweave and break myself from unhealthy relationship patterns, often not getting it right many times in the process, but finally figuring out what worked best. I went on to navigate the uncertainties of dating as a single parent. Later, I got married and began to figure out the love that comes with having a blended family.

As I struggled in many relationships that I thought would last a lifetime, I also observed multi-decades-long marriages of so many family members: aunts, uncles, cousins, family friends – people who’d found meaningful love without sacrificing their needs, confidence, or desires to do it. My parents were married for 57 years. My grandparents were together for 60+. These healthy love stories seemed to be teaching me that having one was possible.

So after my first marriage didn’t work out as I envisioned it would, I began to look back with a more strategic perspective – leaning on my background in the business world – critically considering what role I’d truly played and identifying how and where I could have taken more action. In this reflective journey, I finally realized that I did play a part in relationships ending and I’d been self-sabotaging. The gift is that through doing this important work, I discovered a practical path forward to both heal myself and build a more satisfying relationship with my now husband.

I only got to this place by studying what makes lasting love last. As I became a relationship strategist, what I found is that the fluffy theories don’t work because they aren’t actionable, and they don’t involve you in the action. They don’t involve the value of knowing who you are, what you want, and what’s been holding you back.

Because so often, the hardest person to see (and to love) is yourself. Yet, if you could have the tools and the guide to be able to do that – to be able to love and bring your whole self into a relationship – there is a way forward to a more lasting love story. But that journey has to start with those resources – those strategies.

That’s why I became a relationship strategist in 2016 – why I wrote a book on the subject – and why I speak and serve as an expert for leading platforms like ABC, NBC, CBS, Fox, and others… because you deserve a true roadmap to a real love story.

I know the twists and turns that happen along the way to love. I’ve lived many of them myself, and I’ve learned from others as they have successfully weathered the storms. It is possible to find your practical path to love – but it’s even more important to remember that it always starts with you.

So if you’re ready to do that work – to look inward and restart your love story – I’ll be your guide. Let’s get started together.

Elizabeth

The Ups and down in a Relationship

Life is a journey. There have been plenty of times in our own lives where we have felt the need to give up because we have nothing pushing us to continue. Closest friends and family may have turned their backs on us, but there is one person who never leaves us nor forsakes us--his name is Jesus Christ.

Sometimes in life, we tend to miss out on things because of our views and attitudes. We tend to lose focus, take missteps, lose sight of the vision, and we need something to help us get back on the straight and narrow path.

As you read this book, you will receive some insights on some things that I encountered along my own journey.

In this book, you will receive the chance to read my personal testimonies, 

Hi Im Anita Stoundmire I am the founder and creator of Better Love Movement™, a podcast, personal mentoring program, and social movement to improve the way we date, mate and relate to one another! I want to teach you how to not only find a wonderful romantic partner to share your life with but to help you to stay in love like the first day you met! Whether you are currently single, or in a relationship or marriage, the skills you will learn here will support you in meeting your goal for a healthy, happy, long-lasting relationship! I am a Licensed Professional Counselor and Love Mentor with 15 years experience in working with singles and couples who are tired of the "romance hamster wheel" in which they get in and out of love relationships that just don't work and leave them feeling exhausted and completely without hope! I'm so passionate about working with men and women to find real, true and lasting love.

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