In this inaugural episode, we’re going to get ready for a first date. When I say get ready for a first date, I don’t mean that I’m going to give you fashion, makeup, or other beauty tips, though I could and am not discounting those things because your girl loves a cute fit with coordinated accessories and a bold lip. I’m also not going to tell you to share your location with friends, research the person you are meeting, and make sure you’re safe in a public place when meeting a stranger, though you should definitely do all those things.

What I am going to do is relay the guiding principles I hold to in dating, principles that help me prepare for a first date and that are helpful for all types of relationships, romantic or otherwise. Those three pillars for me are metta, believing the best, and nonattachment.

Resources

The Ethical Slut by ​Janet ​Hardy ​and ​Dossie ​Easton

JoBeth on the Journey podcast

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Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire by Nicki Pappas - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!

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