So You Think You Can Date

By Nicki Pappas

So You Think You Can Date is a podcast for those ready to do dating differently. I'm Nicki Pappas, a queer, poly, millennial mom who is dating again for the first time in 15 years. You don't have to h... more

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How many episodes does So You Think You Can Date have?

The podcast currently has 10 episodes available.

So You Think You Can Date episodes:

May 31, 2025 10. So You Had a Bad Date
In the tenth (and potentially final) episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about bad dates.

Resources
"8. So You Want to Stop F*cking with F*ckboys" episode
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠“Coming Alive” Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ by Nicki Pappas - Available now! With your purchase of a signed copy, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!

Connect with Nicki Pappas
Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast
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16min
May 24, 2025 9. So You’ve Been Stood Up
In the ninth episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about being stood up for a date.

Resources
⁠⁠⁠⁠“Coming Alive” Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire⁠⁠⁠⁠ by Nicki Pappas - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!

Connect with Nicki Pappas
Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast
...more
7min
May 17, 2025 8. So You Want to Stop F*cking with F*ckboys
In the eighth episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about how to stop f*cking with f*ckboys.

Resources
⁠⁠⁠“Coming Alive” Substack⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire⁠⁠⁠ by Nicki Pappas - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!

Connect with Nicki Pappas
Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast
...more
13min
May 11, 2025 7. So You Want to Flirt
In the seventh episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about flirting. More specifically, flirting responsibly for the fun of it.

Resources
"Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power" by Audre Lorde
⁠⁠“Coming Alive” Substack⁠⁠
⁠⁠Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire⁠⁠ by Nicki Pappas - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!

Connect with Nicki Pappas
Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast
...more
20min
May 03, 2025 6. So They Think You’re Intimidating
In the sixth episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about when the people you are dating or are interested in dating think that you are intimidating.

Resources
⁠“Coming Alive” Substack⁠
⁠Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire⁠ by Nicki Pappas - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!

Connect with Nicki Pappas
Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast
...more
9min
April 26, 2025 5. So You Don’t Want to Date with Marla Taviano
In the fifth episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk with my dear friend Marla Taviano about *not* dating.

Connect with Marla Taviano
IG: @marlataviano and @whitegirllearning
Substack: writing wholefarted
Twitter: @marlataviano
Website: ⁠itsmemarla.com

Buy Marla's Books
unbelieve
jaded
whole
please cut up my poems
poem art therapy
what makes you fart
Resources
Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
You Could Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith
Awake by Jen Hatmaker
Conversations with Toni Morrison

⁠“Coming Alive” Substack⁠
⁠Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire⁠ by Nicki Pappas - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!

Connect with Nicki Pappas
Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast
...more
1h 17min
April 19, 2025 4. So You Want to Take a Risk
In the fourth episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about taking mindful, healthy, and safe risks from a grounded place.

Resources
“8 Sentences for Better Understanding” episode of Making Polyamory Work
“Coming Alive” Substack
Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire by Nicki Pappas - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!

Connect with Nicki Pappas
Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast
...more
15min
April 12, 2025 3. So You Want to Quit Playing Games
In the third episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about games in dating, why I don’t like them, and how we can quit playing them so that we can have healthier and more secure interactions.

Resources
“Coming Alive” Substack
Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire by Nicki Pappas - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!

Connect with Nicki Pappas
Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
YouTube: ⁠⁠youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast
...more
12min
April 05, 2025 2. So You Need to Disconnect from a Connection
In the second episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about when to disconnect from a connection and share a few stories from my own experiences with ending connections.
Resources
⁠“Coming Alive” Substack⁠
⁠Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire by Nicki Pappas⁠ - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!

Connect with Nicki Pappas
Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
YouTube: ⁠youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast
...more
17min
March 29, 2025 1. So You’re Going on a First Date
In this inaugural episode, we’re going to get ready for a first date. When I say get ready for a first date, I don’t mean that I’m going to give you fashion, makeup, or other beauty tips, though I could and am not discounting those things because your girl loves a cute fit with coordinated accessories and a bold lip. I’m also not going to tell you to share your location with friends, research the person you are meeting, and make sure you’re safe in a public place when meeting a stranger, though you should definitely do all those things.

What I am going to do is relay the guiding principles I hold to in dating, principles that help me prepare for a first date and that are helpful for all types of relationships, romantic or otherwise. Those three pillars for me are metta, believing the best, and nonattachment.

Resources
The Ethical Slut by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton
JoBeth on the Journey podcast
“Coming Alive” Substack
Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire by Nicki Pappas - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!

Connect with Nicki Pappas
Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
YouTube: youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast
...more
16min

FAQs about So You Think You Can Date:

How many episodes does So You Think You Can Date have?

The podcast currently has 10 episodes available.