So You Think You Can Date

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  • 10. So You Had a Bad Date

    In the tenth (and potentially final) episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about bad dates.


    Resources 

    "8. So You Want to Stop F*cking with F*ckboys" episode

    ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠“Coming Alive” Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ by Nicki Pappas - Available now! With your purchase of a signed copy, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!


    Connect with Nicki Pappas 

    Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

    IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  

    YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast

    16 min
  • 9. So You’ve Been Stood Up

    In the ninth episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about being stood up for a date.


    Resources 

    ⁠⁠⁠⁠“Coming Alive” Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠⁠Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire⁠⁠⁠⁠ by Nicki Pappas - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!


    Connect with Nicki Pappas 

    Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

    IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  

    YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast

    7 min
  • 8. So You Want to Stop F*cking with F*ckboys

    In the eighth episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about how to stop f*cking with f*ckboys.


    Resources 

    ⁠⁠⁠“Coming Alive” Substack⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire⁠⁠⁠ by Nicki Pappas - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!


    Connect with Nicki Pappas 

    Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

    IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  

    YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast

    13 min
  • 7. So You Want to Flirt

    In the seventh episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about flirting. More specifically, flirting responsibly for the fun of it.


    Resources 

    "Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power" by Audre Lorde

    ⁠⁠“Coming Alive” Substack⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire⁠⁠ by Nicki Pappas - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!


    Connect with Nicki Pappas 

    Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

    IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  

    YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast

    20 min
  • 6. So They Think You’re Intimidating

    In the sixth episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about when the people you are dating or are interested in dating think that you are intimidating.


    Resources 

    ⁠“Coming Alive” Substack⁠

    ⁠Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire⁠ by Nicki Pappas - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!


    Connect with Nicki Pappas 

    Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

    IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  

    YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast

    9 min
  • 5. So You Don’t Want to Date with Marla Taviano

    In the fifth episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk with my dear friend Marla Taviano about *not* dating.


    Connect with Marla Taviano

    IG: @marlataviano and @whitegirllearning

    Substack: writing wholefarted

    Twitter: @marlataviano

    Website: ⁠itsmemarla.com


    Buy Marla's Books

    unbelieve

    jaded

    whole

    please cut up my poems

    poem art therapy

    what makes you fart

    Resources 

    Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

    You Could Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith

    Awake by Jen Hatmaker

    Conversations with Toni Morrison


    ⁠“Coming Alive” Substack⁠

    ⁠Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire⁠ by Nicki Pappas - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!


    Connect with Nicki Pappas 

    Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

    IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  

    YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast

    1 hr 17 min
  • 4. So You Want to Take a Risk

    In the fourth episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about taking mindful, healthy, and safe risks from a grounded place.


    Resources 

    “8 Sentences for Better Understanding” episode of Making Polyamory Work 

    “Coming Alive” Substack

    Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire by Nicki Pappas - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!


    Connect with Nicki Pappas 

    Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

    IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  

    YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast

    15 min
  • 3. So You Want to Quit Playing Games

    In the third episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about games in dating, why I don’t like them, and how we can quit playing them so that we can have healthier and more secure interactions. 


    Resources

    “Coming Alive” Substack

    Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire by Nicki Pappas - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!


    Connect with Nicki Pappas 

    Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

    IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  

    YouTube: ⁠⁠youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast

    12 min
  • 2. So You Need to Disconnect from a Connection

    In the second episode of So You Think You Can Date, I talk about when to disconnect from a connection and share a few stories from my own experiences with ending connections.

    Resources

    ⁠“Coming Alive” Substack⁠

    ⁠Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire by Nicki Pappas⁠ - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!


    Connect with Nicki Pappas 

    Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

    IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  

    YouTube: ⁠youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast

    17 min
  • 1. So You’re Going on a First Date

    In this inaugural episode, we’re going to get ready for a first date. When I say get ready for a first date, I don’t mean that I’m going to give you fashion, makeup, or other beauty tips, though I could and am not discounting those things because your girl loves a cute fit with coordinated accessories and a bold lip. I’m also not going to tell you to share your location with friends, research the person you are meeting, and make sure you’re safe in a public place when meeting a stranger, though you should definitely do all those things.


    What I am going to do is relay the guiding principles I hold to in dating, principles that help me prepare for a first date and that are helpful for all types of relationships, romantic or otherwise. Those three pillars for me are metta, believing the best, and nonattachment.


    Resources

    The Ethical Slut by ​Janet ​Hardy ​and ​Dossie ​Easton

    JoBeth on the Journey podcast

    “Coming Alive” Substack

    Coming of Age and Coming Out: Stories of Repressed and Reclaimed Sexual Desire by Nicki Pappas - Pending release June 2025. With your preorder purchase, you will receive a free download of the “Come Alive” guide in your inbox!


    Connect with Nicki Pappas 

    Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nickipappas.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

    IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@broadeningthenarrative⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  

    YouTube: youtube.com/@SoYouThinkYouCanDatePodcast

    16 min

About So You Think You Can Date

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So You Think You Can Date is for those ready to do dating differently. In this podcast, I share about my (mis)adventures in dating and lessons I've learned along the way. Let's talk about…