“You ask great, powerful questions,” she said. “And you’re clearly listening deeply.” It was late 2018 and we had just listened to one of my real coaching calls with one of my real clients.

“… but?” I said. It felt like there was a but. Her tone said it (there was my powerful listening at work ).

“But, I’m pretty sure you’ve just been coaching his saboteur for 20 minutes.”

God, it was embarrassing.

But I wouldn’t take it back, because I learned something really valuable that day. Something that’s stood me in good stead on many coaching calls, with many friends, and with myself ever since.

You see, we all have these voices in our head that tell us we can’t do things. That spout limiting belief after limiting belief. Those voices are there to keep us safe. But what worked for us in elementary school often doesn’t serve us as adults that are trying to grow and expand in our lives and step in our unique genius - what makes us, us.

And that day I learned of a way to try to bypass those saboteurs.

Join me as I talk about it. Oh, and you’ll hear another embarrassing story of mine.