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This episode originally aired in November 2021 and is a very fun departure from my usual interviews.

One of the strangest things about our life in Hollywood (and there are many, many strange things) is our enormous fish tank. Every time I share a little bit about our fish tank on social media, I get flooded with questions that I mostly can't answer. 

So I finally recorded a conversation with someone who could! Nic Tiemens is the co-founder of Infinity Aquariums and not only does he take care of the Tremaine Tank for us every week, he has installed and maintained tanks for some of the biggest celebrities and most beautiful homes in the world. 

In this episode, Nic shares how he stumbled into this line of work, why you shouldn't ever get a fish tank on a whim, and the insane new project he's been working on for two years in Bel Air. 

My husband Jeff also joins us for part of the conversation, because he's the real reason we have a 1,500 gallon fish tank in our dining room. 

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This episode originally aired in August 2021, and is one of my personal favorites.

Ready to bust out the air mattresses? 

This episode is FULL of practical, logistical, and emotional tips for hosting people in your home. I'm sharing everything from the 4 things that keep (most) guests happy, to the mindset shifts that will keep you from being overwhelmed or resentful.

Look, if there's one subject I can give many (many) words to, it's hosting houseguests. Since I moved to Los Angeles 20 years ago, I've hosted friends and family of all group sizes, from couch crashers in a tiny apartment to my entire extended family at our new home last month. 

Our lovely lake house has also been a revolving door of guests over the years, where I've become an expert at managing meals, airport pickups, activities, and downtime for families and groups. I know that having guests can be an absolute honor and also completely exhausting. I hope this episode gives you the tools to plan and the freedom from pressure the next time you're the host.

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This episode originally aired in November 2021, and has been one of the most downloaded and referenced episodes of the show.

Have you ever had the thoughts:

I don’t have enough time

Time is passing me by

I’m wasting too much time

If this is something that really affects your mood, your schedule, and you're full of frazzle, overwhelm, or a continuing existential crisis, then you may have Time Anxiety. (Not an official thing - just a name I gave to something that affects me regularly.)

In this episode, I’m sharing about my own Time Anxiety and how it hurts my productivity and my parenting. I’m also talking about how to notice ALL the messages we get in our culture about TIME, and why those messages are giving us constant low-level hums of anxiety.

I’m also sharing a few concrete methods I use to combat Time Anxiety.

I hope you find this episode helpful or at the very least like you’re not the only one obsessed with the passage and managing of time.

My IG post about Time Anxiety

Headspace meditation app

Episode 18: 10 Thoughts on Anxiety

Episode 57: Is it anxiety or is it intuition?

Ep 213: Anxiety always makes sense

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Are you thriving or are you just...fine? What about your friendships?

Two podcasters I've listened to for YEARS are tackling a new series this summer on friendship (the topic on everyone's tongue). I was so excited to welcome Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg from the How To Be Fine podcast (formerly By The Book) to the show to talk about their podcasting roots, their relationship as business besties, their experiment of living by the advice of self-help books, and their latest project on friendship.

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This is a story about growing up feeling like an outsider and finding a book that made you feel less alone. And then growing up to create an adaptation of that book for the screen, in a dream project that took years to complete. This is a story about my friend Jill Killington and her work on the tv adaptation of Stephen King's THE STAND.

You don't have to like horror or Hollywood to appreciate this conversation. Jill gives us a behind-the-scenes Hollywood perspective that was new and fascinating to me even after knowing her for 20+ years and sharing a longtime love of Stephen King. I think you are going to love the insight and insider stories she shares in this episode.

NOTE: There are spoilers for THE STAND in this episode.

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Since I write and talk about friendship so much, a frequent question comes up around supporting a friend when they are going through something difficult. I think the answer on this can vary, depending on the particular hardship, but my guest today is someone who knows what friends need when their difficult life circumstance is ongoing.

Jessica Patay is the founder of We Are Brave Together, a nonprofit organization that provides respite, community, and resources for mothers caring for children of any age with disabilities, unique needs, or other medical or mental health challenges. She is is passionate about serving caregiving moms and creating authentic communities, and brings 10 tips to the conversation that will help us better support our friends who are caregiving mothers, daughters, partners, and more.

Jessica has also created an anthology for caregiving moms sharing their stories titled Becoming Brave Together: Heroic, Extraordinary Caregiving Stories From Mothers Hidden in Plain Sight

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It's my birthday week! I'm turning 45. And every year around this time, I do a birthday episode looking back and looking ahead.

This year's theme is about the quiet changes that happen when you're distracted, or busy, or not paying attention.

Last year on my birthday I was convinced that something HUGE was going to happen in my 44th year. I thought I had an intuition about it. I journaled my heart out about what was coming for me. And then...when I approached the end of 2023 and then eventually the end of my 44th year, I was disappointed that what I thought was a premonition hadn't come true.

Instead, what I found was that I fundamentally changed in the last year. Through a series of events, heart aches, conversations, and maturity, I find myself at a really different place than I was last June. And while it might not be the seismic event I was anticipating, it has been earth shifting all the same.

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Join us for Stephen King Summer!

Ep 201: 10 Things I Learned in 2023

Ep 180: 4 Metaphors for Turning 44

June Journal Parties on IG

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We're halfway through 2024, which means it's time to take an inventory of the best books we've read in the last six months.

My real life book club joins me for a mid-year look at the literary landscape for the second year in a row. Regular guests Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith are always a delight to have on the show.

Apologies to your TBR after listening to this one.

IT'S NOT TOO LATE TO JOIN US FOR STEPHEN KING SUMMER!

Yasmin’s books:

You Like it Darker by Stephen King

James by Percival Everett

Knife by Salman Rushdie

Steph’s books:

Long Island by Colm Toibin

Neighbors and Other Stories by Diane Oliver

Slow Horses by Mick Heron

Laura’s books (on this episode):

Listen for the Lie by Amy Tintera

Sociopath by Patric Gagne

Somehow by Anne Lamott

Laura’s Best Books of the Year (So Far):

The Bee Sting by Paul Murray

The Book of Love by Kelly Link

How to Walk Into a Room by Emily P. Freeman

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Stephen King Summer

E. Shaver Bookstore in Savannah, GA on Instagram

The Stacks Bookstore on Instagram

Ep 209: Best Books Lately with Sara Hildreth

Ep 218: Best Books Lately with R.Eric Thomas

Ep 212: 10 Questions for Every Room You’re In with Emily P. Freeman

Slow Horses on Apple+

Other Books Mentioned:

Hello Beautiful by Ann Napolitano

Dear Edward by Ann Napolitano

Silver Sparrow by Tayari Jones

An American Marriage by Tayari Jones

Holly by Stephen King

Cujo by Stephen King

How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix

Brooklyn by Colm Toibin

Anne of Green Gables by L.M. Montgomery

Bright Young Women by Jessica Knoll

Erasure by Percival Everett

Wide Sargasso Sea by Jean Rhys 

A Million Little Pieces by James Frey

The Satanic Verses by Salman Rushdie

Find Yasmin on IG @yasminheartsbooks

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Jodi Wellman is focused on death. And she wants you to think about it more, too.

Death is (clearly) not a popular topic, and something most of us avoid thinking about at all costs. But Jodi believes that knowing you have something to lose can help you live like you mean it. Her new book You Only Die Once: How To Make It To The End With No Regrets can walk you through making the most of your time on this earth.

In this episode, author and speaker Jodi Wellman shares 5 ways to live like you're dying:

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Obviously friendship is a big topic around here, but one of the aspects we don't touch on much is how these important relationships have changed in modern culture. We now have hundreds of connections in our daily lives, where our ancestors probably never met that many people in their entire lifetime.

Friendship writer Anna Goldfarb brings us 5 Things to think about in our modern friendships that she expounds upon in her new book Modern Friendship: How To Nurture Our Most Valued Connections.

Called “the New York Times’ friendship correspondent,” Anna Goldfarb's reporting on friendships has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, TIME , Vox, and more.

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