After over a decade of online dating and apps, and then becoming a dating coach, I’ve seen a lot!

And read a TON of dating profiles.

These are my top pics for things guys you don’t want to date say in their profiles:

Drama - even the word itself doesn’t belong in a bio.

I’m looking for an independent woman - may as well read “I’m cheap, broke or just plain stingy.” A giver will not write this in his profile.

My {kids/job/pet iguana} come first - and you never will, but I’ll hang out with you for as long as you meet my needs until I get tired of you.

Don’t message me if… He’s jaded. Just don’t message him at all. And if he messages you, feel free to delete.

Any kind of rant/negativity/sarcasm - I get it! Dating is tough. But it’s going to get even harder if you date guys who use their profiles as a replacement for therapy.

English is obviously not his first language - this can be a grey area. Proceed with caution. Most of these are overseas scammers/catfishers, but some decent guys actually aren’t native English speakers. So make sure that he lives nearby and will actually meet you within a week, tops.That goes for all guys, actually.

No words at all! You want someone who can string a few words together. It shows a willingness to put in a little effort.

If you see any of these, keep scrolling. I don’t care how good his pictures are.

And please note that this list does not include minor typos, being ordinary or boring. There are plenty of wonderful men out there who can’t write a decent profile to save their lives, but they won’t do any of these things.

Go find one.

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