When Kids Avoid, How to Support Without Rescuing

Robyn explains why avoidance keeps anxiety strong and how parents can step in with support that encourages coping instead of escape.

In this episode, therapist and mom Robyn Isman focuses on what happens when children avoid situations that make them anxious. She explains why avoidance feels like relief in the moment but actually makes anxiety stronger over time. Instead of helping kids feel safe, rescuing them from hard moments teaches them that they cannot handle discomfort.

Robyn shares everyday examples of avoidance, from skipping school to avoiding activities or withdrawing from peers. She offers practical strategies parents can use to stay supportive without giving in to avoidance. This includes naming the feeling, validating the struggle, and encouraging small, manageable steps forward.

By the end of this episode, you will know how to recognize avoidance, respond with connection, and help your child move toward independence. You will feel more prepared to step back from rescuing while still showing up as a steady, supportive presence.

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