What happens when the version of you everyone depends on is the very version you’re trying to outgrow?

In this episode of 10,000 Tabs, Kim sits down with writer, teacher, and former attorney Catherine Zack to explore the hidden cost of being the dependable one—the woman who anticipates everyone’s needs, keeps things running smoothly, and quietly carries far more than anyone realizes.

Together, they unpack the lifelong conditioning many women experience around being “good,” agreeable, emotionally available, and endlessly accommodating and how those patterns can slowly disconnect us from ourselves.

Catherine shares her transition from practicing law into yoga, and meditation, but this conversation goes far beyond career pivots. It’s about what happens when your identity has been built around being liked, understood, useful, and needed—and the uncomfortable reality that growth often requires disappointing people.

This episode is an invitation to ask: What would change if you stopped managing everyone else’s experience of you?

On this episode Catherine and Kim discuss:

About The Show

10,000 Tabs is a podcast about career change, reinvention, and what happens when life no longer fits the way it used to.

Each episode explores the moments when something shifts—when the version of life or work that once made sense no longer fits, and the next chapter hasn’t fully revealed itself yet.

Through candid conversations with founders, creatives, leaders, and everyday people, the show explores how we make meaning, find clarity, and move forward anyway.

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When you come from an academic family, "dating coach" definitely wasn't on the bingo card as a potential career. Even so, she's always been meant for it. 

The "she" we're talking about is Clara Artschwager, a coach, writer, mother, former start-up marketer, and much more. And the conversations she's most interested in having today sound like...

Kim and Clara cover these points and the pressure many high-achieving women feel to prove themselves—to be smart enough, accomplished enough, and thoughtful enough to deserve the life they actually want.

In this episode, they discuss:

About The Show

10,000 Tabs is a podcast about career change, reinvention, and what happens when life no longer fits the way it used to.

Each episode explores the moments when something shifts—when the version of life or work that once made sense no longer fits, and the next chapter hasn’t fully revealed itself yet.

Through candid conversations with founders, creatives, leaders, and everyday people, the show explores how we make meaning, find clarity, and move forward anyway.

What happens when the thing you built your identity around suddenly disappears?

In this episode of 10,000 Tabs, Kim sits down with performer, creative, event planner, and storyteller Kloé Mallard for a conversation about identity, reinvention, grief, and learning how to rebuild yourself after life changes direction unexpectedly.

At just 30 years old, Kloé says she feels like she’s already lived six different lives. From studying music in Chicago to performing on cruise ships around the world, losing her voice and falling into depression, rebuilding her life through school and corporate work, and now stepping into a caregiving role for her mother, this conversation explores what it means to keep evolving when every version of your life asks something different of you.

Together, Kim and Khloé talk about the pressure to perform, the emotional complexity of outgrowing old identities, and the reality that many workplaces don’t actually want our “full authentic selves”—despite what modern work culture claims.

This episode is about adaptation, self-worth, creativity, survival, and the quiet fear so many people carry: Do other people think I’m doing this right?

Kim and Kloé discuss:

About The Show

10,000 Tabs is a podcast about career change, reinvention, and what happens when life no longer fits the way it used to.

Each episode explores the moments when something shifts—when the version of life or work that once made sense no longer fits, and the next chapter hasn’t fully revealed itself yet.

Through candid conversations with founders, creatives, leaders, and everyday people, the show explores how we make meaning, find clarity, and move forward anyway.

What if the people who seem “good at change” became that way because life kept asking them to begin again?

In this episode of 10,000 Tabs, Kim sits down with strategy leader and former fashion designer, Tanyika Fraser, for a conversation about reinvention, resilience, and proving people wrong.

Together, they explore the hidden strengths many multi-hyphenate women develop through nonlinear careers: adaptability, self-direction, intuition, and the ability to rebuild after disappointment.

On this episode Tanyika and Kim discuss:

About The Show

10,000 Tabs is a podcast about career change, reinvention, and what happens when life no longer fits the way it used to.

Each episode explores the moments when something shifts—when the version of life or work that once made sense no longer fits, and the next chapter hasn’t fully revealed itself yet.

Through candid conversations with founders, creatives, leaders, and everyday people, the show explores how we make meaning, find clarity, and move forward anyway.

Most public conversations about change are retrospective. This one is coming to you in real time.

On the last episode, Kim announced her latest offer, an opportunity to join her for an intimate in-person gathering in the fall. This episode walks back on that offer.

Instead of saying "everything happens for a reason" or pushing through because "anything worth having is worth working for," Kim shares her deeply personal decision making process, including:

Why turn around and release this the same week? Why not wait to see how registration goes? Kim shares answers to those questions and more, offering a rare glimpse into the messy middle that we miss when consuming stories from the other side.

About The Show

10,000 Tabs is a podcast about career change, reinvention, and what happens when life no longer fits the way it used to.

Each episode explores the moments when something shifts—when the version of life or work that once made sense no longer fits, and the next chapter hasn’t fully revealed itself yet.

Through candid conversations with founders, creatives, leaders, and everyday people, the show explores how we make meaning, find clarity, and move forward anyway.

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It's been one year of this podcast! From Why Is Nobody Talking About This? to 10,000 Tabs, thank you for being here.

📣 Big Announcement: the newest (and current) way to work with Kim is by joining The Bench: Fall Break. Listen through this episode to learn what Fall Break is and how you can sign up to join her in the mountains this fall.

Kim takes the mic solo to reflect on her conversations with guests, share the evolution of The Bench, and the patterns she sees over and over again in highly capable women who know they want something more, but keep delaying movement toward it.

From unfinished creative projects and career pivots to the quiet resentment that builds when we ignore what we really want, this episode explores the emotional cost of staying where we are simply because it feels familiar, responsible, or safe.

Kim unpacks the “curse of capability,” the pressure to keep holding everything together, and why so many women wait until burnout, layoffs, or life transitions force them to make changes they already knew they needed.

In this conversation, Kim shares

About The Show

10,000 Tabs is a podcast about career change, reinvention, and what happens when life no longer fits the way it used to.

Each episode explores the moments when something shifts—when the version of life or work that once made sense no longer fits, and the next chapter hasn’t fully revealed itself yet.

Through candid conversations with founders, creatives, leaders, and everyday people, the show explores how we make meaning, find clarity, and move forward anyway.

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Overachievers know how to do. To push. To make it happen. What they (👋🏼 hey, me too!) struggle with is slowing down.

When you're forced to step away, you also lose the congratulations, the gold star, the "great job" comments. And that can be disorienting.

So who do you become when you're forced to pause your work? That's what my friend and colleague, India Tizol, are discussing. For the first time since having a baby, she returns to the mic to talk about being visible in the void, struggling to find brain capacity when her body was asking so much of her, and navigating porous transition points.

On this episode India and Kim discuss:

About The Show

10,000 Tabs is a podcast about career change, reinvention, and what happens when life no longer fits the way it used to.

Each episode explores the moments when something shifts—when the version of life or work that once made sense no longer fits, and the next chapter hasn’t fully revealed itself yet.

Through candid conversations with founders, creatives, leaders, and everyday people, the show explores how we make meaning, find clarity, and move forward anyway.

What happens when you learn—early or slowly—that being fully yourself isn’t always safe?

In this episode of 10,000 Tabs, Kim talks with narrative advisor and story coach Jessica Graham about the quiet ways we learn to hide parts of who we are—and how those patterns follow us into adulthood, our relationships, and our work.

Jessica shares her experience with codependency, 12-step programs, and what she calls “honest rooms.” Together, they explore how the stories we tell ourselves aren’t always chosen—they’re shaped by what once felt necessary for acceptance, safety, or belonging.

But at some point, those same stories start to feel limiting.

This conversation is about what it takes to recognize that shift and begin rewriting the narrative in a way that actually reflects who you are now.

About The Show

10,000 Tabs is a podcast about career change, reinvention, and what happens when life no longer fits the way it used to.

Each episode explores the moments when something shifts—when the version of life or work that once made sense no longer fits, and the next chapter hasn’t fully revealed itself yet.

Through candid conversations with founders, creatives, leaders, and everyday people, the show explores how we make meaning, find clarity, and move forward anyway.

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Sometimes the hardest voice to hear is your own.

In this episode of 10,000 Tabs, Kim talks with real estate entrepreneur, coach, and educator Tina Beliveau about the long journey of learning to trust your intuition.

Tina’s life has been shaped by dramatic turning points. After struggling through painful teenage years and addiction, she got sober at 17 and began the lifelong work of understanding herself more deeply. That early commitment to personal growth shaped how she built her career, her business, and eventually her family.

Years later, after building a highly successful real estate team and achieving many of the industry’s most visible success markers, Tina found herself facing a different kind of reckoning. A professional partnership unraveled publicly, forcing her to step away from a business she had spent years building and to rebuild her life and identity from scratch.

What followed was a period of quiet, reflection, and recalibration. Away from the noise of industry expectations and constant input from others, Tina slowly began reconnecting with something she had ignored for years: the subtle signals of her own intuition.

As she and Kim discuss, learning to listen to your gut is rarely a dramatic lightning-bolt moment. More often, it’s a slow process of turning down the noise long enough to recognize what your body and instincts have been trying to tell you all along.

In this conversation, Tina and Kim discuss:

About The Show

10,000 Tabs is a podcast about career change, reinvention, and what happens when life no longer fits the way it used to.

Each episode explores the moments when something shifts—when the version of life or work that once made sense no longer fits, and the next chapter hasn’t fully revealed itself yet.

Through candid conversations with founders, creatives, leaders, and everyday people, the show explores how we make meaning, find clarity, and move forward anyway.

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10,000 Tabs is a podcast about career change, reinvention, and what happens when life no longer fits the way it used to.

Each episode explores the moments when something shifts—when the version of life or work that once made sense no longer fits, and the next chapter hasn’t fully revealed itself yet.

Through candid conversations with founders, creatives, leaders, and everyday people, the show explores how we make meaning, find clarity, and move forward anyway.

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