This Empty Nest Life

101. Gray Divorce: Navigating Relationships After 50


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What happens to long-term relationships when the kids leave home? In this candid conversation, relationship coach Dr. Marie Murphy shares her insightful and judgment-free perspective on the growing phenomenon of gray divorce—the trend of couples separating after the age of 50. 

With her PhD in sociology of sexuality, Dr. Murphy challenges conventional views on infidelity and relationship transitions. She emphasizes the importance of being honest with ourselves about what we truly want: “Do you want to reconnect, or do you just think you should want to reconnect?” This distinction lies at the heart of our discussion and leads to deeper explorations of relationship dynamics during midlife.

Highlights:

  • Understanding gray divorce: 40% of divorces now occur after age 50, often linked to infidelity.
  • The role of intentional curiosity in revitalizing relationships and fostering deeper connections.
  • The dilemma of feeling responsible for others' emotions and how it conflicts with cultural ideas of individualism.
  • Empowering thoughts that help you navigate your relationship choices without guilt or shame.

Key Takeaways:

  • Approaching infidelity with a non-judgmental mindset allows for clearer decision-making.
  • The sociology of sexuality focuses on understanding actual behaviors in relationships rather than adhering to societal norms.
  • Making relationship choices often involves balancing competing desires rather than straightforward right or wrong decisions.

Marie Murphy's Bio

Dr. Marie Murphy is a non-judgmental infidelity coach, and the host of the podcast Your Secret is Safe with Me. Much of the so-called advice out there for people who are engaging in infidelity is little more than thinly veiled judgment, but that's not what Marie provides. Marie offers guidance and support that respects the fullness of your humanity, and the complexity of your situation - no matter what you're doing in the infidelity department. To learn more about Marie and her coaching services, go to https://www.mariemurphyphd.com.

Find Marie Online: Instagram, Facebook

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