Most of us only see the distance to our ideal. In this episode we look at using our progress to propel us. We cover:

• The framework of “the gap and the gain” and why it matters

• Why focusing on the gap creates more frustration at home and work

• Simple daily practice to shift your brain toward the gain

• Two situations where “focusing on the gain” can backfire—and what to do instead

Practical takeaways:

• End each day by writing down three wins—big or small.

• Measure progress backward, against where you started, not against an ideal.

• Watch your blind spots: gains aren’t excuses to ignore responsibility.

The gap is endless. Train your focus on the wins, and you’ll bring more calm, presence, and energy to your family and leadership.