How many times have you been told that you can do anything you put your mind to? It’s almost always meant to be encouraging and positive, but I’m here today to give you the lowdown on this all too common phrase, the message it conveys, and why it can be both counterproductive and even dangerous for some. Today, I’m not going to tell you that you can do anything you put your mind to, but I am going to show just why it can be problematic, and how you can actually use your mind in a healthy way to help you determine and achieve the goals that are right for you.

We’ll start by looking at exactly what manifesting is and how this phrase promotes it, and then we’ll review fixed and growth mindset. I’ll also compare manifesting and intention setting, go through some reasons why manifesting is so problematic, and finish up by sharing some questions you can ask yourself to ensure you bring a healthy mindset to your goal setting. Can you achieve a lot more than you think? Absolutely! Is it going to happen just by thinking about it? Not a chance - but it definitely can if you listen in and follow the steps outlined in today’s episode.

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The Finer Details of This Episode: 

•   What manifesting is
•   Fixed and growth mindsets
•   Comparing manifesting and intention setting
•   Reasons why manifesting is problematic
•   Some questions to ask yourself when thinking about your goals

 

Quotes:

“The idea of manifesting is very problematic.”

“There is a lot of power in monitoring and transforming our thoughts and believing we deserve good things and that we're good enough and that we're capable.”

“A lot of these phrases and ideas kind of move around and are presented as science, but they're not.”

“These phrases, if received, you know, when somebody is struggling, can create, you know, self doubt and shame and all kinds of things.”

“The bottom line is you can't do anything you put your mind to.”

“Everyone is a genius, but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it's stupid.”

“If we remind ourselves of what we want on a regular basis, then we act, right? It's not some magic, like you think about this thing, and then poof, it happens.”

“The statement ‘you can do anything you put your mind to’ doesn't take into account the complexity of being a human with a brain with an ego with shitty narratives that we have to fight.”

“What if what you set your mind to doesn't support your business or your values or your interests?”

“When you tell me to set my mind to something without the exact steps to actually make it happen, I don't get any closer to my goals.”

“I can tell you with full certainty, wanting something, deciding you want something, does not matter if you don't do the work to make it happen.”

“So I think a better way to say this is ‘you can do anything you set your mind to, as long as you take an active role in making it happen, that you have a plan, and you take action every single day’. Then you will achieve your goals.”

“I do believe that you can achieve your goals, if we do those things, if we answer those questions, and if we set a plan in place.”

“I want you to really get clear on what you want, what is in alignment with what you want in the future, and who you are and how we can double down on those skill sets.”

 

Show Links:

Kelly’s homepage - www.kellytravis.net

Ascend Mastermind - www.kellytravis.net/ascend 

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