Choosing Us

105. United Front: "We" Language, Consistency, and No-Empty-Threat Parenting


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Ever wonder why your kids seem to ignore your threats but listen to other parents?
Brad reveals the eye-opening moment when his six-year-old's friend rolled his eyes at empty parental warnings—but immediately complied when warned that Brad actually follows through.
In this candid episode of Choosing Us, Michaela and Brad get real about the messy reality of parenting as a team. From navigating brutal pregnancy symptoms to discovering their pre-marriage parenting plans didn't survive first contact with actual children, they share hard-won wisdom about different parenting styles.

The couple reveals their "mom says goes" default system, the importance of debriefing privately after tense moments, and why they never criticize each other in front of the kids. Using collaborative "we" language and stepping in when tempers flare has become their secret weapon for maintaining unity.

Drawing from Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, they emphasize that children's brains aren't fully developed until 25—making consistent boundaries and role modeling crucial. Brad's revelation about kids mimicking everything from tone to how he adjusts his gym shorts drives home the constant responsibility of parenting.

Ready to transform your parenting partnership? Listen to this episode for practical strategies that actually work when theory meets reality.

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Choosing UsBy Brad and Michaela Draper