It’s not the outburst that matters—it’s what’s driving it.

Highlights:
• The text from Tommy’s mom that exposed how quickly frustration can surface
• Why anger is a part of you—not all of you
• How Internal Family Systems (IFS) helps men understand their reactions
• What anger is really after
• The link between frustration and how we parent
• What changes when you pause and get curious about your reaction
• Simple ways to quiet your “angry part” before it takes the wheel

Takeaways:

1. Stop trying to suppress anger—start understanding it.
2. You are not your anger.
3. The calmer you are inside, the calmer your world feels outside.

Tommy references Dr. Richard Schwartz’s No Bad Parts and walks through how “parts work” reshaped his relationship with his mom, his wife, and himself.

If you want to understand your own anger and lead from calm, schedule a 50-minute strategy session at DurableDad.com. We’ll talk through where that part shows up and how to get back to steady ground.

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