Did you spend a lot of time trying not to feel?

You may not even recognize yourself doing it.

If you are indulging in something at the expense of something that would better serve you and those you serve, you may be trying not to feel. It often shows up in the form of addiction - food, drink, work, shopping, games, and even over-achieving.

Why not allow yourself to feel all the emotions? Not taking them out on others, but sitting with the emotion and letting it work through you.

You can even give yourself a timeframe to feel all the anger, sadness, betrayal, and hurt. Give it a try. It may not be as bad as you anticipated or last as long as you thought.