Let's talk about the outdated dating rules we need to leave behind! From “the guy should always text first” to “playing hard to get actually works,” Christina unpacks where these tropes come from, why they’re problematic, and whether they deserve a spot in modern dating.

Are opposites really the key to lasting love? Does jealousy mean someone actually cares? Christina challenges these old-school ideas and offers a fresh, intentional approach to dating based on communication, mutual effort, and shared values.

Ready to stop playing games and start dating with purpose? Tune in for a reality check on the rules that are keeping you stuck in dating déjà vu.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:12 The most overrated and toxic dating rules

01:35 The guy should always text first

02:03 Where this rule comes from

02:41 Why this rule is problematic

03:29 Taking control of your dating life

04:34 Why people still defend this rule

05:11 Verdict: Cancel it – mutual effort matters

05:42 Playing hard to get works

07:56 The psychology behind this strategy

08:38 Why playing hard to get attracts the wrong people

09:22 The difference between pacing and playing games

10:04 Verdict: Modify it – flirting is fine, games are not

10:32 Opposites attract

11:15 How movies and pop culture reinforce this trope

12:14 The difference between chemistry and compatibility

13:46 Why shared values matter more than differences

13:58 Verdict: Modify it – opposites can attract, but compatibility keeps you together

14:39 If they’re not jealous, they don’t care

15:13 How jealousy is mistaken for passion

16:14 The difference between insecurity and love1

7:25 Personal story on handling jealousy in dating

17:50 Verdict: Cancel it – security is what we want

18:11 Final takeaways – the dating rules to cancel and modify

18:30 What actually works in modern dating

18:50 Where to follow and work with Christina

19:05 Outro