How do you feel about accepting help from others? Are you a do it yourself kind of person? Or are you someone who's willing to admit when you're a little bit overwhelmed and you need some help?

I know I'm a DIY, leave me alone. I'll handle it until I'm falling backward.

Have you ever heard the story or the analogy of pulling a wagon through life? You have two kinds of people, the one that will grab the other side and help pull you pull it with you or the other ones that jump on and ride on top.

We're going to help you find and spot the difference between the hangers on and the people helping you pull. We're going to help you cut the weight. It's not going to be easy. It's going to be a little painful. It's going to be a little uncomfortable. But it's totally going to be worth it in the end because you're not going to be pulling all their dead weight.

Here’s a very literal way to categorize your friends and family.

Draw three circles like a bullseye, you have your middle circle, the next bigger circle, and then the biggest circle. The circle in the middle is your number one, then circle number two, and then number three moving outward.

Your circle number one is your ride-or-die, they would do anything, they would lay down in the middle of the road and let you walk over them to get you to the other side safely.

Your number twos are the people you spend the most time with. Write down your top five that you spend the most time with.

This was where I had my aha!

The next circle out is your acquaintances. I'm not talking about your Facebook friends. I'm talking about the people that you see on a semi regular basis.

Once you've done that, then you take a good hard look. Is circle number two full of people that are really truly helping pull your wagon?

When you have identified everyone, and you realize who doesn’t support you 100%, then you ask yourself, “Do they understand my WHY?”.

Give them the benefit of the doubt before you kick them off.

You can do it a couple ways:

You could just flat out stop answering their phone calls.

You can suddenly not be available as often as you once were.

Then your circle number three is the one you farm. Start talking to those people more, ask for help, and then allow the hangers on to fall off the wagon.

You can cut ties with, with friends, with coworkers, with whatever it is, but what about your immediate family? What if you don't want to cut ties with your spouse or kids? What do we do then?

There are a couple of things that we can do when that happens in our physical space in our home.

Just like we want to share our why and our story with them. We also want to try to validate them. We don't have to agree with them. The way I validate him is to say, this must mean so much to you. Tell me what that means to you.

Then you can have a conversation when they feel validated.

By having conversations with those around you, whether it's about your collection of rocks, or whether it's about me starting a new business, we allow people to speak their truth and give their opinion and, and then we can make an educated decision as to how we move forward.

Keeping the peace in your home:

You have to have a very clear conversation with your family, about the difference between your space, my space, and our space.

Allow them to take ownership of their own space. Let them own their space and set boundaries. I'm still the parent and I still have a say in the matter.

Now you have family space and our space. This is where the most communication has to happen. Because there are now multiple people using this space.

It's not my space, it's not your space, it's our space combined. And therefore, we have to have much stricter boundaries and rules to make sure everybody feels happy in a space. If you really clearly define the difference, then you get much more cooperation and respect.