I Said What I Said

110: Boundaries! Cultivating a relationship with self, and culling toxicity


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In upcoming episodes I'm going to be building on ideas of embodiment, losing people but/because of gaining self-love, and spiritual awakening. Today's episode lays the groundwork for these themes. I discuss some of my developments in: 


  • Boundaries with self
  • Processing resentment through body work and dreams
  • Dream interpretation 
  • Friendship breakups and self respect
  • Proprioception and ignoring the body’s cues



00:00 Welcome and Introduction

00:42 Why there will be “No Love is Blind DC” Reunion *sprinkles Holy Water*

03:45 Housekeeping and Patreon Updates

06:35 Discussing Boundaries

07:48 Exploring Resentment and Self-Reflection

17:06 Breathwork and Body Awareness

23:25 Friendships and Boundaries

29:00 Astrology and Relationships

29:34 The Significance of Dreams

30:40 Psychic Reading and Friendship

33:00 Interpreting Dreams and Emotional Release

38:03 Boundaries and Friendships

42:52 Evolving Friendships and Self-Respect

50:59 Guiding Questions for Self-Reflection

54:58 Final Thoughts and Farewell



In a friendship dilemma? Consider the following:


  1. Think of the version of you who made this friend, are they someone you would consider trustworthy now? Did they hold standards and boundaries in a way that are useful to you now? 
  2. This friend that you are unsure about, are they respectful or disrespectful? 
  3. Are they comfortable with conflict? Do they leave room for disagreement? 
  4. Are you inspired by them to be a more you version of yourself? What does their presence encourage or discourage in you? 
  5. Are your best traits amplified by them or are your worst traits amplified by them or something in between? 
  6. Who benefits the most from this relationship? Is it equally beneficial?
  7. What about this friendship lights you up? What about it makes you uncomfortable and uneasy? 
  8. Have you tried setting a boundary and how did they respond? 


Sorry if you hear a clicking sound - its my fidget toy oooops


References:


Love is Blind DC Tea: The horrific threesome "parenting" triangle Tyler from Love is Blind, is in - and boldly continues to lie about. For the full expose watch this https://youtu.be/94iP19qo9z8?si=N_vNpvDPXQzQPlyY and then this https://www.youtube.com/live/5eDwrzgidpQ?si=X1r_wSuov0NKZlDd (the interview with the ex wife is about half way in. TW!!). Here’s a brilliant YouTube about black women on dating shows: https://youtu.be/k84_Vj8fvlc?si=pkq_lMPadEHTFZF7 


Set Boundaries, Find Peace - Nedra Glover Tawwab


Friendship breakup episode: Ep94


Disassociation and Sex episode: Ep84 + Ep85 (exclusive to Patreon)


Flex Mami: https://www.instagram.com/flex.mami/ 


Aumji - breathwork teacher: https://www.instagram.com/aumji_kistan/?hl=en 


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