If you’ve been single for longer than a year or so I can pretty much guarantee you that your situation is not a product of just not having met the right guy.

You are looking at a mindset gap or a skill gap, and most likely both. Unless you address these things, you are likely to not only remain single, but create and intensify unhealthy dating patterns and it will get harder as you age.

Continuing to hope that you just run into the right guy one of these days or that love will just happen to you is a terrible plan.

Creating and sustaining a healthy relationship requires much more skill than luck, so I suggest you start building those skills now.

Work and change will be required, but it’s the only way forward.

The reason for this is that good relationships don’t happen to us, they are built. We are the ones who are responsible for building them, one day at a time, one conversation at a time.

You have to start with the right kind of person, but in order to do that, you have to have the skills to present yourself well, vet the men you date and resist the temptation to look outside of yourself for the “perfect man” to show up and create an instant relationship with you. It simply doesn’t work that way.

The dating process, showing up, talking to men, going on dates, vetting men, communicating with them, setting boundaries and standing for your must-haves are all part of this.

Those are the things that make you able to have the kind of relationship you really want. If you cut corners on these things, you won’t be able to create a healthy relationship no matter who you meet. You’ll pass on good men for the exciting ones who will turn out not to be the answer.

You are the answer, not the guy. You are the one who is going to have to do this. And you can. 

It requires getting your reps in and building the skills to vet men and have healthy relationships. There’s no shortcut, but building these skills is the quickest way to get what you really want out there.

It’s kind of like training for a marathon or getting stronger in the gym. You get your reps in and build your strength. And then you get to enjoy the results.

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