Sushi, oysters, BBQ joints, hookah bars, how to connect with random people and have conversations, how to appreciate men, even men I’d never see again.

Running around the city in my heels meeting random men who opened doors for me, bought me dinners and drinks, sometimes showed up drunk and tried to kiss me on first dates, and often broke my heart taught me so much.

Thank you to all the men who taught me how to do this and spending a few hours and some (or a lot) of your hard earned money to get to know me.

Sometimes I was an entitled brat. 

Most of the time, I needed to get over myself and realize that I was not the hottest thing on Match.com either.

Sometimes I wasn’t as nice as I should have been. 

Sometimes the guys weren’t either.

But I learned so much from my journey and I’m grateful for all of it.

As difficult, awkward and downright painful as it was, I’d do it all over again twice just to be with my husband today.He is so worth it.

I’m so grateful for everything I learned, including how to connect with other humans in a non-transactional way.

Top things I learned:

1. How to get over myself (I’m still working on this one)

2. How to prioritize what’s really important and what is not

3. How to ask the right questions

4. How to set boundaries

5. How to love myself and what that really means 

6. I really was not the hottest thing on Match.com

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