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119 - Midlife: Crisis Point or Check Point?
Annaliese and Alan talk about what it feels (and what it takes!) to approach the midlife experience. Midlife confronts us with the quality of the life we’ve been living and pursuing. You’ll hear about the stereotypes that can feel real, but there are bigger invitations and growth that hide underneath the changes that midlife brings with it.
You’ll Hear About:
-Midlife reveals the gaps. There are ways you’re used to being or acting or feeling that have just seemed normal, but when you begin to experience that midlife point you might be realizing “Oh wow, I can’t just skip or hack or ignore this anymore.” You’ll realize you need to establish a brand new set of skills or gain new tools. You might not feel as capable, and notice that you’ll probably need to practice acceptance more than you ever have before.
-Midlife brings change with it. Both internally and externally, . It can feel like the ground is shifting under your feet, because life begins to feel less steady and certain, and you’ll either blame the changes on your circumstances or age or you’ll face and identify what you actually want to begin focusing on and valuing in your life.
Your Free Coaching Call:
-Have a coaching session with Annaliese for yourself! Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your FREE, 1-hour Discovery Chat. Share your own story thoughts and Annaliese will help you gain useful tips and perspective to see what you already have in your hands to make real changes in your life.
Resources:
CORE VALUES
Wake Your Dream Podcast Episodes to Anchor You in Midlife:
41: Core Values Part 1: Bring Yourself More Joy
https://wakeyourdream.podbean.com/e/41-core-values-part-1-bring-yourself-more-joy/
42: Core Values Part 1: Bring Yourself More Direction
https://wakeyourdream.podbean.com/e/42-core-values-part-2-bring-yourself-more-direction/
MIDLIFE REFLECTION QUESTIONS:
Midlife brings unavoidable changes and a perspective change about reality. When we’re going through this time, we need to develop new awareness of ourselves and a better understanding of what we’re now needing to wrestle with in this season. When I feel the crisis in what I’m experiencing and noticing… will I give myself the chance to use it as a checkpoint to show me where I need to switch gears, learn a new perspective, or drop a “normal” routine that’s just not serving me? Let’s equip ourselves with curiosity, openness, and recognition of your core values, so you can find better and more supportive ways to handle our new struggles and discomfort and questions with empowerment and willingness to grow.
Midlife points out gaps.
It’s showing me what I’m used to relying on to bring me comfort or success in my routine or in my personality. And when our outer world changes in ways we can’t avoid or control, it’s important to have solid anchor points and understanding we’re building in our inner world that we can go to to give us the stability and consistency we need as we navigate life’s unavoidable changes.
Question 1: When you think about the routines, roles, or strengths you've leaned on most heavily — which ones are you clinging to out of habit or fear rather than because they're actually still working for you?
Question 2: If your inner world (emotions, beliefs, spirituality, identity, etc.) had to lead you right now — without the external structures of routines, relationships, or accomplishments that usually hold you up — what would you discover about what's genuinely solid for you versus what's been just masks or defenses or performance to meet expectations you don’t truly value?
Question 3: What's one thing your midlife experience seems to keep nudging you to accept about yourself that you've been quietly dismissing as "not really me" — and what might it mean that it keeps showing up anyway?
Midlife brings change with it.
Life’s changes will come to us, in this season, in a way that we can’t avoid. This can trigger fears and anger and a lot of discomfort inside us. Notice where you might be trying to distract yourself
Midlife is an experiential reminder that life will continue to be out of your control and it will continue to be something you need to navigate. So this is a check point that you can still learn and expand into new and more supportive ways to do life.
Question 4: When discomfort, fear, or anger shows up around a change you didn't choose, what's your most instinctive go-to for escaping or handling it — and what might that default reaction be costing you in terms of real growth?
Question 5: If you were to treat this season of change as a curriculum designed specifically for you, what would the recurring themes suggest you most benefit from learning or finally facing and addressing or accepting?
Question 6: Where in your life right now are you spending the most energy trying to control or resist what's already shifting — and what might it feel like to get genuinely curious and more open-handed to engage with that change instead of fighting it?
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By Annaliese SeabornAnnaliese and Alan talk about what it feels (and what it takes!) to approach the midlife experience. Midlife confronts us with the quality of the life we’ve been living and pursuing. You’ll hear about the stereotypes that can feel real, but there are bigger invitations and growth that hide underneath the changes that midlife brings with it.
You’ll Hear About:
-Midlife reveals the gaps. There are ways you’re used to being or acting or feeling that have just seemed normal, but when you begin to experience that midlife point you might be realizing “Oh wow, I can’t just skip or hack or ignore this anymore.” You’ll realize you need to establish a brand new set of skills or gain new tools. You might not feel as capable, and notice that you’ll probably need to practice acceptance more than you ever have before.
-Midlife brings change with it. Both internally and externally, . It can feel like the ground is shifting under your feet, because life begins to feel less steady and certain, and you’ll either blame the changes on your circumstances or age or you’ll face and identify what you actually want to begin focusing on and valuing in your life.
Your Free Coaching Call:
-Have a coaching session with Annaliese for yourself! Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your FREE, 1-hour Discovery Chat. Share your own story thoughts and Annaliese will help you gain useful tips and perspective to see what you already have in your hands to make real changes in your life.
Resources:
CORE VALUES
Wake Your Dream Podcast Episodes to Anchor You in Midlife:
41: Core Values Part 1: Bring Yourself More Joy
https://wakeyourdream.podbean.com/e/41-core-values-part-1-bring-yourself-more-joy/
42: Core Values Part 1: Bring Yourself More Direction
https://wakeyourdream.podbean.com/e/42-core-values-part-2-bring-yourself-more-direction/
MIDLIFE REFLECTION QUESTIONS:
Midlife brings unavoidable changes and a perspective change about reality. When we’re going through this time, we need to develop new awareness of ourselves and a better understanding of what we’re now needing to wrestle with in this season. When I feel the crisis in what I’m experiencing and noticing… will I give myself the chance to use it as a checkpoint to show me where I need to switch gears, learn a new perspective, or drop a “normal” routine that’s just not serving me? Let’s equip ourselves with curiosity, openness, and recognition of your core values, so you can find better and more supportive ways to handle our new struggles and discomfort and questions with empowerment and willingness to grow.
Midlife points out gaps.
It’s showing me what I’m used to relying on to bring me comfort or success in my routine or in my personality. And when our outer world changes in ways we can’t avoid or control, it’s important to have solid anchor points and understanding we’re building in our inner world that we can go to to give us the stability and consistency we need as we navigate life’s unavoidable changes.
Question 1: When you think about the routines, roles, or strengths you've leaned on most heavily — which ones are you clinging to out of habit or fear rather than because they're actually still working for you?
Question 2: If your inner world (emotions, beliefs, spirituality, identity, etc.) had to lead you right now — without the external structures of routines, relationships, or accomplishments that usually hold you up — what would you discover about what's genuinely solid for you versus what's been just masks or defenses or performance to meet expectations you don’t truly value?
Question 3: What's one thing your midlife experience seems to keep nudging you to accept about yourself that you've been quietly dismissing as "not really me" — and what might it mean that it keeps showing up anyway?
Midlife brings change with it.
Life’s changes will come to us, in this season, in a way that we can’t avoid. This can trigger fears and anger and a lot of discomfort inside us. Notice where you might be trying to distract yourself
Midlife is an experiential reminder that life will continue to be out of your control and it will continue to be something you need to navigate. So this is a check point that you can still learn and expand into new and more supportive ways to do life.
Question 4: When discomfort, fear, or anger shows up around a change you didn't choose, what's your most instinctive go-to for escaping or handling it — and what might that default reaction be costing you in terms of real growth?
Question 5: If you were to treat this season of change as a curriculum designed specifically for you, what would the recurring themes suggest you most benefit from learning or finally facing and addressing or accepting?
Question 6: Where in your life right now are you spending the most energy trying to control or resist what's already shifting — and what might it feel like to get genuinely curious and more open-handed to engage with that change instead of fighting it?