In this episode of Autistic FM, we dive into a deeply moving conversation with “Autistic Joyologist” Nikki Butler, a fierce advocate for the late-diagnosed autistic and ADHD community. Nikki shares her transformative journey from survival mode to self-acceptance, recounting the pivotal moments of her diagnosis and the profound impact it has had on her life. From navigating masking and societal expectations to finding her authentic self, Nikki’s story is one of resilience and hope.

Nikki opens up about the emotional weight of a late diagnosis, including the grief and self-compassion that come with it. She sheds light on how she navigated burnout, workplace toxicity, and feelings of isolation, and shares the tools that have helped her thrive. This episode offers invaluable insights for anyone seeking to better understand the lived experiences of late-diagnosed neurodivergent individuals.

Trigger Warnings

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses mental health challenges, including suicidal ideation, childhood trauma, workplace toxicity, and emotional dysregulation. Listener discretion is advised.

Topics Covered in Episode 12

• Late Diagnosis: Nikki’s journey to understanding her dual diagnosis of autism and ADHD.

• Masking and Authenticity: The challenges of shedding societal expectations to embrace her true self.

• Burnout and Recovery: Moving from corporate burnout to a life of self-compassion and healing.

• Emotional Regulation: Tools and techniques Nikki uses to process intense emotions and find balance.

• Stigma and Stereotypes: The importance of understanding and supporting individual experiences of neurodivergence.

• Advocacy and Resilience: Nikki’s insights into building a life rooted in authenticity and connection.

About Nikki Butler

Nikki Butler is a former corporate leader turned advocate and entrepreneur, dedicated to empowering late-diagnosed autistic and ADHD women to create lives filled with authenticity and joy. Known as “The Autistic Joyologist,” Nikki draws on her personal and professional journey to help others break free from societal expectations and thrive on their terms. Her work focuses on eradicating outdated stereotypes, fostering self-acceptance, and enabling women to embrace their unique talents unapologetically.

Fueled by her late diagnosis and years of navigating burnout, isolation, and societal judgment, Nikki has made it her mission to redefine success for neurodivergent women. Through her mentorship, innovative RADIATE model, and advocacy efforts, she inspires women to stand out proudly in a world not designed for them. With a passion for continuous learning, creativity, and personal growth, Nikki is paving the way for future generations of autistic and ADHD individuals to lead empowered and fulfilling lives.