In this introspective episode of Autistic FM, host Haje Kamps takes center stage as he delves into his journey of receiving an autism and ADHD diagnosis. This episode offers a candid exploration of Haje's path to understanding his neurodiverse identity, reflecting on experiences and realizations that crescendoed in a formal diagnosis. Haje shares the emotional landscape of unraveling a lifetime of neurodivergent experiences, from the nuances of self-recognition to the official confirmation of autism and ADHD.

Listeners are invited into a deep personal narrative that reveals the complexities of living with undiagnosed neurodivergence for many years. Haje discusses his strategies for coping with sensory overload, the intricate dance of social interactions, and the often unrecognized effort it takes to mask autistic traits in everyday life. By sharing his story, Haje aims to shed light on the internal journey of acceptance and understanding that accompanies such a profound discovery.

Throughout the episode, Haje provides insights into the broader implications of an autism and ADHD diagnosis, highlighting both the relief and the ongoing challenges. He ponders the path forward, considering how this newfound knowledge will influence his personal growth and work, and discusses the support systems that will help him thrive in a neurotypical world.

Topics Covered in Episode 35

• Autism and ADHD Diagnosis: Haje walks through the entire diagnostic process, sharing the emotional and cognitive steps involved in receiving a dual diagnosis.

• Masking and Social Dynamics: An exploration of how masking autistic traits has impacted Haje's life, relationships, and understanding of self.

• Mental Health and Acceptance: Reflections on the mental health challenges entwined with living undiagnosed, and the journey toward self-acceptance and advocacy.

About Haje

Haje Kamps is the host of Autistic FM, a podcast devoted to exploring the diverse experiences and stories within the neurodivergent community. Known for his articulate storytelling and insightful interviews,

Haje shares his personal insights on navigating life with autism and ADHD, providing a resonant voice for listeners around the world. He continues to use his platform to foster understanding and advocate for authentic neurodivergent narratives.

You can find him where you find Autistic FM :-)

Content Warnings

This episode contains mentions of autism and ADHD diagnoses, mental health struggles, including anxiety and depression, experiences with bullying, and the pressures of masking in social situations. Please take care of yourself and listen accordingly.

In this episode of Autistic FM, we engage in a profound conversation with Valery Caputi Lopez, One of the minds behind Kaboose, an app designed to connect neurodivergent individuals through shared interests. Valery shares her journey of being diagnosed with neurodivergence later in life and how that revelation has reshaped her understanding of herself and her work. As a passionate advocate for neurodivergent communities, Valery provides insight into the challenges and triumphs of finding a place in a world designed for the neurotypical.

Throughout the episode, Valery delves into the complexities of managing both a career and personal life amid chronic health issues and societal misconceptions. Her story highlights the importance of supportive work environments and sheds light on the systemic barriers that many neurodivergent individuals face. She emphasizes the necessity of embracing diversity and the rich tapestry of experiences it brings to the table.

Listeners will gain an understanding of the significance of "nothing about us without us," exploring how empowerment and self-advocacy play pivotal roles in the neurodivergent community. Valery’s experiences speak to the broader themes of identity, acceptance, and creating inclusive spaces where neurodivergent individuals can thrive authentically.

Topics covered in Episode 34

• Late Diagnosis and Self-Understanding: Valery’s discovery of her neurodivergence at age 38 and how it altered her life and career path.

• Workplace Inclusivity: The importance of creating supportive environments for neurodivergent individuals and how this can lead to greater job satisfaction and retention.

• Challenging Stereotypes: Addressing harmful misconceptions about neurodivergent individuals and the urgent need for society to broaden its understanding of autism.

About Valery Caputi Lopez

Val is a multilingual Digital Marketer, Idea Consultant, speaker, copywriter, designer, artist, inventor, and miscellaneous content creator from Colombia who now lives in the US. A jane-of-all-trades in the digital marketing and strategy arena who is passionate about innovation, digital content creation, strategy, pop culture, storytelling, and consumer behavior. A life-long tech-geek with a never-ending love for automated marketing solutions, new software, and AI tools.

Val currently works at the Kaboose App as their Head of Marketing, connecting neurodivergent folks around the world through championing diverse neurodivergent stories, cutting-edge research, advocacy, and boosting awareness about our unique online platform, which allows people to make friends and community based on their special interests, passions, and talents.

Content warnings

Please note that this episode discusses mental health struggles, including depression, anxiety, and burnout. Historical references to eugenics and challenges related to societal discrimination are also present. Please look after yourself and listen with care.

In this episode of Autistic FM, we engage in an illuminating conversation with Myk Bilokonsky, a thought leader and advocate within the neurodiversity community. Known for his profound personal insights and philosophical musings, Myk shares his transformative journey of discovering he was autistic and ADHD at 35—a revelation that followed an intense period of autistic burnout. His experiences have not only reshaped his self-identity but also fueled his advocacy and support for others navigating similar paths.

Throughout our discussion, Myk delves into the philosophical and spiritual aspects of neurodivergence, offering a unique perspective on identity masking and self-acceptance. Our conversation navigates through Myk's creation of supportive spaces such as the Autism Translated subreddit, highlighting how these communities provide solace and understanding to many. His candid reflections shine a light on the emotional and psychological complexities that accompany a journey toward self-discovery.

Join us as we explore Myk's insights on spiritual awakenings and the mysticism of the autistic experience. We discuss how his philosophical reflections and personal stories offer a nuanced perspective on the intersection of neurodiversity, spirituality, and identity. This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in the deeper narratives that shape neurodivergent lives.

Topics covered in Episode 33

• Autistic Burnout and Diagnosis: Myk’s journey to discovering his autism and ADHD at 35, and the profound impact it had on his life.

• Identity Masking and Self-Acceptance: Insightful discussions on the challenges of presenting a socially acceptable self versus embracing authentic identity.

• Spirituality and Mysticism: Exploration of spiritual awakenings, ego death, and the philosophical reflections on consciousness and the self.

About Myk Bilokonsky

Myk is a software engineer, neurodiversity activist, armchair philosopher and student of life in all of its complexity. When he's not tweeting as @mykola he's playing with LLMs, reading comics or doing his best to cultivate a meaningful somatic and spiritual practice. You can find his digital garden at Myk.pub

In this episode of Autistic FM, we dive into the nuanced world of neurodiversity with Libby Banks, a dedicated therapist specializing in neuro-affirming therapy for autistic adults. Libby shares her personal journey through her own late autism diagnosis, emphasizing how this revelation has informed and enriched her professional approach. Together, we explore the importance of understanding the autistic experience and the unique challenges faced by those diagnosed later in life.

Libby offers invaluable insights into her therapeutic practices, discussing how she integrates relational, psychodynamic, and cognitive approaches to better support her neurodivergent clients. Throughout our conversation, she emphasizes the power of validating autistic experiences, the importance of individualized care, and her commitment to creating safe spaces where clients can explore their identities without judgment.

Additionally, the episode covers how Libby's practice has evolved from working in underserved communities to focusing on autistic adults, highlighting the systemic gaps in mental health services and the importance of curiosity and empathy in therapy. We uncover the complexities of autism, dissociation, and mental health struggles, seeking to promote understanding and acceptance within broader societal contexts.

Topics Covered in Episode 32

• Neuro-Affirming Therapy: Libby's approach to integrating relational, psychodynamic, and cognitive methods in therapy to support autistic adults.

• Autistic Self-Discovery: The personal impact of Libby’s own autism diagnosis and how it shapes her work with clients.

• Mental Health and Neurodiversity: Challenges in accessing appropriate mental health support for autistic individuals and the importance of neuro-affirming practices.

  
  

About Libby Banks

Libby Banks is a late-diagnosed autistic therapist specializing in supporting neurodivergent adults. With years of experience in agency and private practice settings, they are passionate about advocating for systemic reform in mental health care, including developing a therapeutic modality. Her work centers on amplifying neurodivergent voices and fostering meaningful change.

You can learn more about Libby at http://libbyiscomplex.substack.com

Libby Banks - Image provided by guest

Trigger Warnings

This episode contains discussions related to childhood trauma, mentions of self-injury, mental health struggles, dissociative experiences, sexual violence and domestic violence. Please take care of yourself and use discretion when listening.

In this intriguing episode of Autistic FM, we sit down with Lauren "L2" Howard, a driving force behind neuro affirming mental health practices. Lauren, known for her innovative approach in the mental health field, shares her personal journey of embracing her neurodivergent identity and the inspiration behind her work with LBee Health. She offers a fresh perspective on challenges within traditional diagnostic processes for autism and ADHD, and the conversation is both enlightening and empowering.

Lauren opens up about the stigma associated with late diagnoses and the often overlooked aspects of living neurodivergently. Through her experience, she highlights the systemic barriers to effective diagnosis and care and shares her mission to create accessible and empathetic mental health services. Listeners are treated to a candid discussion about building supportive environments, both personally and professionally, that thrive on acceptance and understanding.

Join us as we explore Lauren's journey to transforming neurodivergent care, the significance of neuro affirming services, and her vision for a world where mental health systems adapt to the needs of all individuals. This episode is a call to challenge existing paradigms and embrace a more inclusive approach to mental health.

Topics covered in Episode 31

• Neuro Affirming Mental Health: Lauren's innovative practices and how they cater to the unique needs of neurodivergent individuals.

• Barriers in Diagnostic Processes: The complexities and biases that exist in traditional methods of diagnosing autism and ADHD.

• Creating Inclusive Environments: The importance of designing workplaces and homes that recognize and accommodate neurodiverse needs.

  
  

About Lauren "L2" Howard

Lauren, aka L2, is a passionate mental health advocate and the founder of LBee Health, a neuro-affirming mental health clinic dedicated to creating safe and accessible mental health solutions and care for every identity.

With over a decade of experience in clinical operations and digital health strategy, Lauren empowers others to prioritize their mental well-being.

Lauren “L2” Howard - Image provided by guest

Through her work, she aims to foster open conversations about mental health and create accessible resources for those in need.

Company website: https://www.lbeehealth.com/

Other links worth checking out: Adult autism assessment / Adult ADHD assessment / #AffirmingAF merch

Content warnings

Please be aware this episode includes discussions of sensory processing issues, mental health struggles including burnout and trauma, and experiences within toxic work environments. Please take care of yourself and listen accordingly.

In this engaging episode of Autistic FM, we chat with Michelle Markman, a trailblazing executive coach specializing in empowering neurodivergent women in leadership roles. Michelle shares her compelling journey of self-discovery, from being perceived as the neurotypical sibling to uncovering her own autism spectrum identity during college. This transformation propelled her into a career dedicated to helping other high-achieving women navigate the complexities of corporate life while embracing their unique neurodivergent traits.

Through candid discussions, Michelle explores the significance of recognizing personal boundaries, avoiding burnout, and fostering self-care in professional environments. She provides invaluable insights into developing effective communication skills, advocating for oneself, and setting boundaries that empower women to succeed authentically and sustainably. Michelle's story encourages listeners to celebrate neurodiversity and challenge societal norms that often overlook the contributions of neurodivergent individuals.

Join us as we explore the nuances of neurodivergent experiences in the corporate world, delve into the arts of self-advocacy and emotional regulation, and highlight the importance of embracing one's true self. Michelle’s message is one of resilience, authenticity, and empowerment for all those who have ever felt the pressure to fit in while striving to stand out.

Topics covered in Episode 30

• Navigating Corporate Spaces: Michelle describes how her late autism diagnosis informed her understanding of workplace dynamics and led to a commitment to inclusivity and genuine leadership.

• Setting Boundaries and Self-Care: A deep dive into practical strategies for neurodivergent women to establish boundaries, prevent burnout, and maintain well-being in high-pressure environments.

• Embracing Neurodivergence: Discussion on the power of recognizing and celebrating neurodiverse traits in oneself and others, and how Michelle leverages this to promote diverse leadership.

  
  

About Michelle Markman

Michelle Markman is the founder of ND Coach Inc. and a passionate advocate for neurodiversity. As a late-diagnosed autistic woman with firsthand experience navigating corporate environments and entrepreneurial ventures, Michelle understands the unique challenges of succeeding in a world not designed for neurodivergent individuals.

Drawing on her personal journey and professional expertise, Michelle helps clients master the art of self-advocacy, set boundaries, and build the confidence to lead authentically. Her coaching focuses on career growth, leadership development, and creating systems to prevent burnout while achieving professional goals.

Michelle Markman - Image provided by guest

Whether breaking through corporate barriers or creating a business that aligns with your strengths, Michelle and ND Coach Inc. provide the tools and support to help you succeed on your terms.

“Your success begins with embracing who you are."

You can learn more at ND Coach Inc

Content warnings

This episode contains discussions surrounding self-identity and diagnosis, mental health challenges like depression and burnout, experiences of trauma and PTSD, and societal expectations and discrimination. Please proceed with awareness and care for your emotional well-being.

In this episode of Autistic FM, we dive in with Philip, who shares his journey of living interwoven with autism, complex PTSD, and recovering from addiction. Hailing from Brooklyn, New York, Philip opens up about his late discovery of being neurodivergent and how it has influenced his life and healing process. Together, we explore the emotional complexity of reconciling with a turbulent past while building a hopeful future.

Philip's story is marked by courage as he recounts his experiences of growing up in an abusive environment, battling addiction, and finding solace and community through AA. His narrative paints a vivid picture of resilience, shedding light on the realities of living with multiple identities that often clash with societal expectations. Through his reflections, Philip provides invaluable insights into the process of self-discovery and acceptance.

This episode dives into the nuances of Philip's personal growth, from crafting a detailed "user manual" for himself to navigating relationships with authenticity. He discusses the significance of unmasking, the complexities of forgiveness versus acceptance, and how embracing his true self has led him to a more vibrant, fulfilled life.

Topics covered in Episode 30

• Complex PTSD and Autism: Exploring the intertwined nature of trauma and neurodivergence, and the challenges of late diagnosis.

• Overcoming Addiction: Philip’s journey through addiction recovery and how discovering his authentic self helped reshape his path.

• Self-Discovery and Acceptance: Crafting a personal "user manual" to better understand and navigate his identity and needs.

About Philip

Phillip Reyland is a tech founder and product strategist with a background in engineering, design, SEO, NLP, and consumer product development. He previously built an analytics platform to measure natural language performance and is now developing a technology-driven estate planning platform designed to simplify the process for nearly all American families.

Phillip is also an advocate for more thoughtful discussions around leadership and mental health in tech, challenging the glorification of narcissism in founder culture. He speaks openly about his experiences recovering from narcissistic abuse and navigating the highs and lows of startup life. Learn more at reyland.com

Content warnings

Please note that this episode contains discussions about complex PTSD, childhood abuse, experiences of addiction, and suicidal ideation. Please take care of yourself and listen with care.

In this episode of Autistic FM, we sit down with Micky, an AI engineer from Australia and the creator of the NeuroTranslator app. Michael’s journey into understanding and embracing his autism began after his daughter’s diagnosis, sparking a profound exploration of his own neurodivergence. His experiences have fueled the creation of a tool that bridges the gap between neurodivergent and neurotypical communication, offering a new way to understand and connect.

Michael shares candid insights into the process of unmasking and the impact of late diagnosis on personal and professional realms. His story is a tapestry of discovering authenticity amidst the challenges of skill regression and misunderstandings. The development of the NeuroTranslator app stands as a testament to his commitment to easing communication barriers and fostering empathy.

As we delve into Michael’s transformation, he discusses the trials and triumphs of navigating relationships and career changes. The conversation highlights the importance of self-compassion and support systems in overcoming the initial turmoil of a new neurodivergent identity. Michael’s journey underscores the power of technology in creating inclusive spaces for those navigating similar paths.

Topics covered in Episode 28

• Discovering Neurodivergence: Michael’s awakening to his autistic identity after his daughter’s diagnosis and the transformative impact it had on his life.

• NeuroTranslator App: The creation and development of an app designed to enhance communication between neurodivergent and neurotypical individuals.

• Navigating Change: Insights into the personal challenges of unmasking, including skill regression and relationship dynamics.

About Micky

Micky is an AI engineer, as well as the creator of NeuroTranslator, an AI-powered mobile app designed to bridge the communication gap between neurodivergent and neurotypical individuals. As an autistic person in a neurodiverse marriage, Micky deeply understands the communication differences that exist between different neurotypes and built NeuroTranslator to help others navigate these complexities with greater ease.

His work has gained significant attention, with NeuroTranslator going viral on various social media platforms and soon to be featured in publications such as The Washington Post. Micky is passionate about making neurodivergent communication more accessible, ensuring that the tools he builds are both effective and financially accessible.

Beyond technology, Micky is a parent to neurodivergent children, bringing personal experience to his work. He is dedicated to helping individuals, couples, and families improve their understanding of each other through AI-driven support.

TikTok: @mickydaniel

You can find the NeuroTranslater app on iOS and Google Play

Content warnings

Please note that this episode includes discussions of autism-related challenges, relationship misunderstandings, and emotional distress. Please take care of yourself and listen with care.

In this episode of Autistic FM, I’m joined by Makay Davis, an inspiring educator specializing in special education and functional life skills. Makay shares her profound insights into the world of neurodiversity, stemming from her personal journey of discovering ADHD and autism within herself. Her mission is to create educational spaces that embrace autonomy and empower neurodivergent individuals to navigate life confidently.

Throughout our engaging conversation, Makay discusses how her life experiences, including growing up alongside a neurodivergent cousin, have shaped her teaching approach. She emphasizes the importance of balancing structure and choice to foster environments where neurodiverse individuals can thrive without feeling constrained by rigid expectations. Makay’s approach focuses on cultivating functional life skills that resonate with students, allowing them to express themselves authentically.

Listeners can look forward to an in-depth exploration of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), the significance of autonomy in education, and how neurodiversity should be celebrated rather than stigmatized. Makay sheds light on strategies that enable neurodivergent individuals to harness their strengths and lead fulfilling lives.

Topics covered in Episode 27

• Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA): Understanding PDA and how rethinking autonomy impacts neurodivergent individuals in educational settings.

• Functional Life Skills Education: Makay's approach to teaching life skills that emphasize choice, autonomy, and empowerment for neurodiverse learners.

• Embracing Neurodiversity: The journey of recognizing and validating one’s unique neurodivergent identity and fostering inclusivity within communities.

About Makay Davis

Makay Davis is an educator with over a decade of experience in special education. Based in Sausalito, she runs a personalized teaching practice dedicated to helping neurodivergent individuals develop functional life skills and autonomy.

Her empathetic and innovative approach is informed by her own experiences with ADHD and autism, as well as a life spent growing up in different countries and supporting neurodivergent family members. This unique combination of lived experience and professional expertise—including a background in Special Education, Speech-Language Pathology, and specialized training in Pathological Demand Avoidance—has led to The Makay Method, an immersive model that prioritizes real-world learning experiences and celebrates every child’s unique strengths.

You can find Makay on Instagram at @Makay_Method.

Content warnings

Please note that this episode includes discussions of childhood trauma, experiences of bullying, and mental health challenges including ADHD and autism spectrum. Please take care of yourself and listen with care.

In this episode of Autistic FM, we're joined by Janneke Parrish, a formidable advocate and activist within the tech industry. Known for her courage in standing up for workers' rights, Janneke shares her journey navigating life with autism, PTSD, and agoraphobia. She opens up about how becoming an outspoken advocate against workplace discrimination at her former employer, Apple, led to significant personal and professional challenges.

Janneke delves into the intersection of activism and autism, exploring her innate sense of justice and how it drives her to fight against systemic injustices. During the conversation, she discusses organizing labor movements and the hurdles faced when challenging powerful corporate structures. Janneke's story offers insights into the resilience required to take a stand and the toll such bravery extracts.

We also explore her ongoing efforts in law and literature aimed at supporting those who face similar battles. Janneke continues to be a powerful voice for change, navigating personal setbacks while advocating for the rights and dignity of workers everywhere.

Topics covered in Episode 26

• Neurodivergence and Justice: How Janneke's autism and strong sense of justice intersect to inspire her activism and drive for change.

• Workplace Discrimination: Discussing Janneke's experiences at Apple and the systemic issues she fought against, including discrimination and harassment.

• Building a Movement: The genesis of the Apple II movement and its impact on labor rights within the tech industry and beyond.

About Janneke Parrish

Janneke Parrish is a labour activist and tech organiser, known for her work in the #AppleToo movement. Her work has been instrumental in reshaping conversations around workers' rights within Silicon Valley and beyond. She is the author of “The Tech Worker's Guide to Unions."

You can find Janneke at JannekeParrish.com and on BlueSky.

Content Warnings

This episode contains discussions on mental health struggles, workplace discrimination, and experiences of harassment and assault. Please take care and listen with caution.