In this episode of Autistic FM, we dive into an illuminating conversation with Katie, a resilient individual from Sheffield, navigating her late autism diagnosis. Katie, who spent years under the cloud of various misdiagnoses, shares insights into her journey toward embracing her true neurodivergent identity. Her experiences highlight the often rocky road of late diagnosis, especially among women, as she recounts the frustrations and revelations that marked her path to understanding and self-acceptance.

Through our discussion, Katie opens up about the mismatch between her true self and the labels imposed on her over the years. Her story sheds light on the stereotypes surrounding autism and the challenge of finding one's place while consistently masking and facing societal expectations. We explore the emotional and mental transformation that comes with realizing one's authentic self and the liberating yet daunting task of navigating life through the lens of newfound clarity.

Katie’s journey serves as a poignant reminder of the complexities involved in neurodivergent experiences. From her love for sensory stimulation in unexpected forms, such as spicy foods and physical activities, to the peace she finds in routine and structure, Katie’s narrative is one of strength and perseverance. Her tale underscores a universal need for understanding, acceptance, and the grace to be imperfectly human.

Topics covered in Episode 15

About Katie

Katie resides in Sheffield, England, where she runs a successful social media PR business that offers her flexibility and a sense of accomplishment. As a mother and wife, she values the peace and predictability of her life, which provides her with the stability she cherishes.

Content warnings

Please be advised this episode includes discussions related to mental health challenges, including depression and past misdiagnoses. Please listen cautiously and prioritize your well-being.

In this episode of Autistic FM, we are joined by Dylan King, a creative writer and life coach from Houston, Texas. Dylan shares her insights into the connective power of writing for neurodivergent individuals. She discusses how creative expression can serve as a form of self-understanding and external processing, particularly for those who navigate the complexities of neurodivergence. The conversation spans her personal experiences, shedding light on her journey of realizing her own neurodivergency inspired by her daughters' diagnoses.

Throughout the episode, Dylan talks about how embracing creativity has helped her find peace and clarity amidst a busy mind. She reflects on transitioning from traditional theater to leveraging her artistic skills in life coaching, offering guidance to individuals striving for personal growth. We also explore the societal shifts required to better support neurodivergent people and the unique perspectives they bring to communities.

This candid exchange delves into the challenges and triumphs of finding one's authentic voice through writing. It serves as an empowering exploration of how external processing through various forms of art allows for deeper self-reflection and acceptance. Dylan provides practical advice on overcoming internal struggles, known as "The Thrash," to unlock the potential of creative expression.

Topics covered in Episode 14

About Dylan King

Dylan King is a creative writer and life coach from Houston, Texas. She relies on her background in theater and arts to connect deeply with others, using the power of writing as a tool for self-discovery and expression. Through her coaching, Dylan supports individuals in overcoming neurodivergence challenges, helping them embrace their unique identities.

You can find her on threads, instagram, tiktok and pinterest @queenofgrit and her website queenofgrit.com

Content warning

This episode includes discussions about the pressures that accompany neurodivergent burnout and high-masking, particularly in neurodivergent women. Listener discretion is advised.

In this episode of Autistic FM, we sit down with Serena Poganski, a neurodivergent behavior analyst, writer, and advocate. Diagnosed with autism at 29, Serena shares her journey of self-discovery and how her diagnosis reshaped her life as a mother, professional, and advocate. She takes us through the challenges of navigating the world as an undiagnosed autistic individual and the freedom that comes from uncovering her neurodivergence.

Our conversation dives into the often-controversial world of ABA therapy, exploring its historical challenges and Serena’s mission to provide neurodiversity-affirming care. Serena discusses her work in modern ABA, which focuses on ethical, compassionate practices to support autistic individuals in thriving on their own terms. From teaching self-regulation skills to addressing harmful behaviors with supportive replacements, Serena paints a vision of ABA that prioritizes the needs and independence of the autistic community.

Listeners will gain a nuanced understanding of what modern ABA can look like when approached with care and integrity. Serena shares her experiences balancing motherhood with her advocacy work, the importance of addressing sensory sensitivities, and the tools she uses to navigate emotional regulation. This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in the evolution of ABA therapy and its potential to create positive outcomes for autistic individuals.

Trigger warnings

This episode includes discussions about:

• Autism diagnosis and personal mental health struggles.

• Sensory overload and emotional dysregulation.

• Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) therapy, including its historical controversies and modern practices.

• Parenting challenges, including references to meltdowns and sensory sensitivities.

Topics covered in Episode 10

• Late Diagnosis: Serena’s autism diagnosis at 29 and how it changed her perspective on herself and her work.

• Modern ABA: ABA therapy gets a bad rap, but Serena explains how a neurodiversity-affirming approach to ABA therapy is possible

• Emotional Regulation: Serena’s tools for managing sensory sensitivities and self-regulation.

• Sensory Overwhelm: The challenges of balancing motherhood with sensory needs.

• Breaking Stereotypes: How Serena uses her platform to reshape public perceptions of autism and ABA.

• Parenting as a BCBA: How Serena’s professional insights influence her parenting strategies.

About Serena Poganski

Serena Poganski is a neurodivergent behavior analyst, content creator, writer, and mother. After years of self-reflection and research, she received a formal autism diagnosis at the age of 29. As a voice for both the autistic community and behavioral health professionals, Serena is deeply passionate about the reform of ABA therapy and ensuring the provision of compassionate, neurodiversity-affirming care.

Serena is currently working on her debut book, a hybrid memoir about her experiences growing up as an undiagnosed autistic and the freedom found after uncovering her neurodivergence. The book is set to release in 2025. You can find Serena on TikTok and Instagram under the handle @serena.unmasked, where she shares insights and advocates for ethical practices in behavioral health.

In this episode of Autistic FM, we dive into a deeply moving conversation with “Autistic Joyologist” Nikki Butler, a fierce advocate for the late-diagnosed autistic and ADHD community. Nikki shares her transformative journey from survival mode to self-acceptance, recounting the pivotal moments of her diagnosis and the profound impact it has had on her life. From navigating masking and societal expectations to finding her authentic self, Nikki’s story is one of resilience and hope.

Nikki opens up about the emotional weight of a late diagnosis, including the grief and self-compassion that come with it. She sheds light on how she navigated burnout, workplace toxicity, and feelings of isolation, and shares the tools that have helped her thrive. This episode offers invaluable insights for anyone seeking to better understand the lived experiences of late-diagnosed neurodivergent individuals.

Trigger Warnings

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses mental health challenges, including suicidal ideation, childhood trauma, workplace toxicity, and emotional dysregulation. Listener discretion is advised.

Topics Covered in Episode 12

• Late Diagnosis: Nikki’s journey to understanding her dual diagnosis of autism and ADHD.

• Masking and Authenticity: The challenges of shedding societal expectations to embrace her true self.

• Burnout and Recovery: Moving from corporate burnout to a life of self-compassion and healing.

• Emotional Regulation: Tools and techniques Nikki uses to process intense emotions and find balance.

• Stigma and Stereotypes: The importance of understanding and supporting individual experiences of neurodivergence.

• Advocacy and Resilience: Nikki’s insights into building a life rooted in authenticity and connection.

About Nikki Butler

Nikki Butler is a former corporate leader turned advocate and entrepreneur, dedicated to empowering late-diagnosed autistic and ADHD women to create lives filled with authenticity and joy. Known as “The Autistic Joyologist,” Nikki draws on her personal and professional journey to help others break free from societal expectations and thrive on their terms. Her work focuses on eradicating outdated stereotypes, fostering self-acceptance, and enabling women to embrace their unique talents unapologetically.

Fueled by her late diagnosis and years of navigating burnout, isolation, and societal judgment, Nikki has made it her mission to redefine success for neurodivergent women. Through her mentorship, innovative RADIATE model, and advocacy efforts, she inspires women to stand out proudly in a world not designed for them. With a passion for continuous learning, creativity, and personal growth, Nikki is paving the way for future generations of autistic and ADHD individuals to lead empowered and fulfilling lives.

In this episode of Autistic FM, we dive into Brian Beames’ controversial book, Autistic Thinking, which boldly claims to have found the “cure” for autism. Spoiler: it hasn’t.

Haje dissects the book’s misguided ideas—ranging from equating autism to a literary invention to suggesting it can be “cured” by simply changing self-perception. The discussion not only critiques Beames’ pseudoscientific assertions but also explores the harm such narratives can inflict on the autistic community.

This episode is both a takedown of dangerously narrow-minded book - and a celebration of meaningful works that embrace neurodiversity. Haje offers his own reflections on autism, identity, and the transformative power of understanding and acceptance.

Better things to read

If you’re looking for informed, compassionate, and well-researched perspectives on autism, here are some excellent alternatives:

• Look Me in the Eye by John Elder Robison: A heartfelt memoir that captures the struggles and joys of living as an autistic person.

• Unmasking Autism by Devon Price: A must-read exploration of masking and how to embrace authenticity.

• NeuroTribes by Steve Silberman: A deep dive into the history of autism and the neurodiversity movement.

• Thinking in Pictures by Temple Grandin: A classic that offers insight into the autistic mind through Temple’s experiences.

• The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time by Mark Haddon: A beautiful work of fiction that provides a glimpse into autistic perception.

Trigger Warnings

This episode discusses themes of eugenics, ableism, and harmful stereotypes about autism. While graphic details are not included, the topics may be distressing for some listeners. Please take care of yourself and listen only if you feel prepared.

A huge thanks to Keira Havens for the help in putting this episode together. It is far better for her assistance (and still, any remaining mistakes or omissions are all Haje's)

In this episode of Autistic FM, we sit down with Cher, creator of the TikTok page “Navigating Neurospicy Love,” where she shares her journey of loving and living with her late-diagnosed autistic and ADHD husband, Darren. After 27 years of marriage, Darren’s diagnosis has been a turning point, offering clarity and transforming their relationship. Cher shares candid stories about the challenges of late diagnosis, navigating communication hurdles, and learning to support a neurodivergent partner while taking care of herself.

Cher opens up about the unique struggles and joys of neurodiverse relationships. She talks about finding resources when there were none, overcoming societal misconceptions about autism, and how patience, understanding, and a bit of humor can make all the difference. Her TikTok project aims to foster understanding and support for others in similar relationships, providing a much-needed voice for neurotypical partners navigating neurodiversity.

We explore how Cher and Darren have developed tools to communicate better, the impact of sensory sensitivities on daily life, and how identifying as neurodivergent has reshaped their dynamic. Cher also shares practical advice for couples managing the complexities of neurodiverse love and why open conversations about trauma and masking are crucial for healing and growth.

Topics covered in Episode 10

• Late Diagnosis: Darren’s autism diagnosis after 25 years of marriage and how it changed everything.

• Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships: How Cher and Darren have learned to support each other through communication, understanding, and humor.

• Sensory Sensitivities: The small adjustments that make a big difference in daily life for neurodiverse couples.

• TikTok Advocacy: Cher’s mission to support neurotypical partners and foster greater understanding of neurodivergence.

• Masking & Identity: The challenges of unmasking and how it affects neurodiverse relationships.

• Communication Tools: Techniques Cher and Darren use to bridge their differences and find connection.

About Cher

Cher is the creator of “Navigating Neurospicy Love,” (@neurospicy.love4) a TikTok page dedicated to sharing insights and advice for partners of neurodivergent individuals. She lives in Madison, Wisconsin, where she continues to explore how love, patience, and humor can help navigate the complexities of neurodiverse relationships.

Resources & Links Mentioned

• Navigating Neurospicy Love: Cher’s TikTok page (@neurospicy.love4) , sharing lessons from her journey.

• Books & Shows Referenced: Atypical, Rain Man (1988) and Love on the Spectrum.

In this episode of Autistic FM, we sit down with Philipp Wolf, a German serial entrepreneur and producer based in Montreal, Canada. Philipp founded and runs Swyvl, a company focused on empowering individuals to understand and embrace neurodiversity through immersive experiences. With a rich background in visual effects production, Philipp has contributed to blockbuster films like Dune: Part One and Ghost in the Shell, and his expertise in emerging technologies, international co-productions, and IP development makes him a driving force in virtual production and innovation.

Philipp shares his deeply personal journey of discovering and embracing his neurodivergent identity, which began with subtle hints from social media algorithms and culminated in a life-changing diagnosis at 38. He explores the nuanced dynamics of masking, the challenges of unmasking in long-term relationships, and how self-acceptance has transformed his understanding of himself and those around him.

The conversation dives into topics such as the intersection of autism and alexithymia, the complexities of energy management, and the importance of building supportive environments for neurodivergent individuals. Philipp’s candid reflections offer hope and guidance for anyone navigating the journey of self-discovery and acceptance, whether neurodivergent or neurotypical.

Topics Covered:

• Philipp’s journey to an autism diagnosis and the role of self-acceptance

• Masking and unmasking: navigating relationships and authenticity

• The connection between autism and alexithymia

• Finding balance between self-advocacy and compromise in relationships

• Embracing change and the role of self-awareness in managing energy

• Why creating supportive environments benefits everyone

• Redefining success and validation from external to internal

About Philipp

Philipp Wolf (he/him) is a German serial entrepreneur and producer based in Montreal, Canada. As the leader of Swyvl, he is dedicated to fostering understanding and acceptance of neurodiversity through innovative and immersive experiences. Philipp has an extensive background in visual effects production, with contributions to films such as Dune: Part One and Ghost in the Shell. His expertise spans emerging technologies, international co-productions, and IP development, with a focus on pushing the boundaries of virtual production.

Philipp also serves on the Visual Effects Society Board of Directors and the Producers Guild of America’s Production Innovation Taskforce. Diagnosed as autistic later in life, he has embarked on a profound journey of self-discovery, using his experiences to inspire others to embrace their unique identities. Through his work and personal insights, Philipp champions the beauty of neurodiversity and advocates for creating inclusive, empowering environments for all.

In this episode of Autistic FM, we sit down with Cheyenne, a late-diagnosed neurodivergent individual navigating life with autism, ADHD, and a history of trauma. Cheyenne is a devoted mother and wife, an advocate for vulnerable communities, and a passionate explorer of art, nature, and growth.

Cheyenne’s story is one of resilience and transformation. From a tumultuous childhood marked by abuse and manipulation, she’s worked tirelessly to redefine intimacy, love, and trust in her adult life. Through unmasking her neurodivergence and breaking generational cycles of abuse, Cheyenne has cultivated a family life filled with honesty, comfort, and unconditional love.

This episode dives into how autism can shape one’s understanding of connection and empathy. Cheyenne shares how her son’s potential autism diagnosis sparked her own journey of self-discovery and how her husband’s unwavering support helped her reclaim her agency. Together, they’ve created a loving environment rooted in mutual growth and understanding, offering a powerful glimpse into what it means to heal and thrive.

Trigger warnings

This episode contains discussions of sexual assault, child abuse, trauma, and manipulation. While graphic details are not included, the topics may be sensitive for some listeners. Please take care of yourself .

Topics covered

• Cheyenne’s journey as a late-discovered neurodivergent individual

• Breaking generational cycles of abuse

• Reclaiming intimacy and defining healthy relationships

• Autism and the experience of empathy

• The challenges of navigating diagnostic processes in rural areas

• Building a family life grounded in unconditional love and support

• How media portrayals of love inspired healing and change

About Cheyenne

Cheyenne is a 29-year-old mother, wife, artist, and advocate living in Missouri. Passionate about nurturing growth and breaking cycles of trauma, she finds joy in gardening, creating art, and advocating for marginalized communities, including plants and animals. Coming from a difficult background, she is committed to fostering healthier, more authentic relationships in her family and community. Her story is a testament to the power of resilience, self-discovery, and the transformative nature of love and understanding.

In this episode of Autistic FM, we sit down with Kendra Koch, founder of Divergently, a platform for late-diagnosed neurodivergent women. Kendra shares her diagnosis journey, which began during her pregnancy and the pandemic. We discuss the unique challenges neurodivergent women face, including masking, sensory sensitivities, and navigating societal expectations. We discuss why so many women are diagnosed later in life and how Kendra’s experiences inspired her to build a community specifically tailored to their needs.

Kendra introduces Divergently as a safe space offering peer support, expert-led workshops, and practical resources. Designed to bridge the gap between the wellness industry and medical care, it addresses overlooked day-to-day challenges neurodivergent women face. She explains why late-diagnosed women are underserved by traditional systems and highlights the platform’s January launch.

We also explore Kendra’s personal experience with burnout and her commitment to “Building without burnout.” She shares insights into preventing burnout, the importance of the 7 types of rest, and how embracing neurodivergence can foster creativity and connection. This episode is packed with inspiration and actionable ideas for anyone navigating life as a late-diagnosed neurodivergent person.

Trigger warnings for this episode: This episode contains discussions about mental health challenges, burnout, and the impacts of neurodivergence, including sensory sensitivities, societal pressures, and personal struggles with self-worth. While these topics are shared to foster understanding and connection, they may be sensitive or triggering for some listeners. Please take care of yourself while listening.

Topics covered in Episode 7

In this episode of Autistic FM, we sit down with Darcy von Borstel, an Adapted Physical Education Specialist from Sacramento, California. Darcy’s work focuses on helping students with diverse abilities, including autistic individuals, improve their gross motor skills and navigate physical education with confidence and creativity.

Darcy shares her insights on how physical education can foster critical life skills like reciprocal play, which helps autistic individuals build meaningful interactions with peers. From using bubble wands as motivation to teaching kids the joy of throwing and catching, she explains how tailoring approaches to each student’s unique needs and interests can transform their learning experience. Darcy also dives into the concepts of proprioception and interoception, shedding light on how sensory processing differences can shape autistic individuals’ relationship with physical activity.

The conversation explores Darcy’s personal journey as well, including her empathy for neurodivergent individuals, shaped by her own experiences with MS, cancer, and the cognitive challenges they’ve brought. Her vulnerability and resilience shine through as she reflects on how these challenges have deepened her patience, awareness, and connection with her students.

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