12 Week Relationships Podcast

People pleasers and narcissists together create the perfect storm. What the people pleaser has to give, the narcissist is happy to take. This can create an extremely co-dependent and toxic relationship that's very difficult to break out of.

To better understand the people pleaser and narcissist, Pye and Dr. Glen dive into how the wounds that fuel these behaviors are created and how to begin the process of healing and seeking out healthier relationships.

Relationships never stay the same. People change and so do their values and goals. It's a natural process. Some relationships develop together with these changes. Others form deep rifts and differences. When this happens, the relationship can begin to feel one sided or exhausting to maintain. This is a sign that a relationship may no longer be serving you and Pye and Dr. Glen share some advice on how to move forward if this happens to be the case.

Relationships with aligned Core Values are energizing and fulfilling. On the other hand, a relationship with misaligned Core Values can be emotionally taxing. This is because when Core Values are misaligned, each individual aims for different things. Without proper boundaries, this misalignment can lead to resentment and unhappiness in the relationship. Understanding our own Core Values helps us seek out connections and relationships that are deeply meaningful, purposeful, and long-lasting.

Core Values play a vital role in our relationships, careers, and overall lives. They guide our decisions and actions. However, unresolved past trauma can blind our decision making and cause us to act to satisfy a wound instead, which can have negative long term consequences if left unresolved. Once we identify and resolve those past traumas, we can then lay out a strong foundation of Core Values to guide us to a healthier and fulfilling life.

Sometimes, what we think are our Core Values, actually wind up being desires, expectations, or past trauma. To discover our true Core Values, we have to peel back the layers and it's normal to miss the mark as we try and uncover what's really driving our actions. To help out with the process, Pye and Dr. Glen discuss examples of what Core Values are and aren't, and ways to know if your Core Values are actually your Core Values.

Core Values are what drives our behaviors and decisions. They shape our relationships, careers, and overall quality of life. Core Values are formed by how we grow up and our experiences throughout life and they can change over time. If our actions and decisions don't align with these values, we quickly become unhappy and unfulfilled. That's why, in order to live a fulfilling and meaningful life, we need to understand what our Core Values are and act in accordance with those values.

Leaving an unhealthy long-term relationship is a lot like breaking a drug addiction. In fact, the stages and challenges involved are nearly identical. Somebody who finds themselves unable to break free from a toxic relationship may share similar physiological dependencies to that of a drug addict. The process of leaving an unhealthy relationship can be broken down into 6 stages and Pye and Dr. Glen are here to discuss what to expect while going through this process.
Leaving an unhealthy long-term relationship is a lot like breaking a drug addiction. In fact, the stages and challenges involved are nearly identical. Somebody who finds themselves unable to break free from a toxic relationship may share similar physiological dependencies to that of a drug addict. The process of leaving an unhealthy relationship can be broken down into 6 stages and Pye and Dr. Glen are here to discuss what to expect while going through this process.

Social media is a hotbed of arguments and nasty comments. The anonymity doesn't help. However, that's also a good reason to just not engage. In the vast majority of cases, it's not worth the energy to try and convince strangers why they're wrong over the internet.

But why do we get triggered by certain comments? Pye and Dr. Glen break down what creates "Keyboard Warriors," and how to avoid falling into an all out comment war.

Divorce lawyers directly oversee the final stages of marriages. They have a front row seat to the complex nature of relationships. Because divorce lawyers are so exposed to conflicts in relationships, they likely have very unique and detailed perspectives on how they might go about maintaining a healthy relationship.

Today, Pye and Dr. Glen react to Glamour's "Divorce Lawyers Give Relationship Advice" and offer some insight and commentary from the perspective of psychology.

A flaw in the divorce process is that the law sees the separating partners as "enemies." A relationship ending is painful enough, but when lawyers, custody, costs, and assigning blame gets involved, it can quickly bring out the worst out of everyone.

It's important to know what to expect if you're getting divorced. The relationship is in its final stages and wounds are going to be fresh. The trauma from a nasty divorce process can last a long time so it's best to focus on the priorities, especially if children are involved, and keep the process as amicable as possible.
Understanding what to expect during the divorce process as well as the changes that will occur in the relationship as it proceeds to the final and official stages of separation is crucial and the well being of each partner and particularly the children, if involved, should be prioritized.

In this episode, Pye and Dr. Glen discuss how and why divorces can bring the worst out of people and ways we can keep this already painful process as amicable and cordial as possible, should you or somebody you know, be going through a divorce.