Today I want to talk about comparison, not with others, but comparison with the past versions of ourselves. It can be easy to succumb to that critical voice within and reminisce on who you were when you were younger. Too often we let our minds wander to regrets and 'what ifs.' It's become normal to criticize ourselves for not being who we were 20 years ago, especially as women, and to berate ourselves for decisions we made in the past. But it's time that we change that - by living in the past, you and I only serve to waste time.

We need to reframe our mindsets, and that's what I really want to talk about today: using our inner critic as a catalyst for positive change. It's time that you make peace with that negative voice in your head telling you that you can't write or rewrite your own destiny, so stay present in your mind and body. You might even find that age comes with rich experience, so use that wisdom, and create new milestones for yourself.

The Finer Details of This Episode:

• Comparing ourselves with others
• Longing for youth
• Regretting decisions
• Staying present
• Opportunities for action
• Acknowledging the inner critic
• Making peace with your inner self

Quotes:

"We feel it, that inner critic comes out and starts telling us that, you know, we need to figure shit out."

"I'm constantly criticizing myself for not being who I was 20 years ago."

"If we spend all this time shaming ourselves for what we aren't, then we're wasting energy that could be spent elsewhere."

"So, as part of accepting yourself right now, maybe find a neutral thought, 'I'm proud of what I've accomplished to this point.'"

"We can create new positive habits. We can create new milestones for ourselves. And one of the habits that we need to stop is being stuck in that repetitive critical voice."

"And I think that's the power of getting older. We are wiser, we're more experienced, and we can recognize what's most important to us. I think the times that we feel that comparison to our younger selves are those moments where we're struggling."

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